Vaginismus is a form of anxiety.
Vaginismus is a medical condition where the vaginal muscles close when any attempt at penetration is made. It is like the mouth clamping shut. There is a psychological condition rather results in a physical condition.
If you have ever felt fear at the thought of using tampons, let alone, having a gynaecological examination, then you may be suffering from vaginismus. At its worse, you are excluding yourself from medical examination and the option of a family in the future.
Fears of penetration can come from overhearing horror stories as a child. It could be how your mother described sex, that it’s pleasure was just for men. Religious beliefs may be play a role. If you grew up hearing that sex is only for married couples and only for procreation, it can be difficult for you to give yourself permission to have sex.
There are two types of vaginismus:
- Primary: vaginal penetration has never been achieved.
- Secondary: vaginal penetration has been achieved but is no longer possible.
Primary vaginismus is the most common. Secondary vaginismus can occur in menopausal women as the level of oestrogen lowers.
Can Vaginismus Be Cured?
Yes, it can. There is nothing wrong with you. Your body is going through another form of anxiety/panic. The whole body tightens and in your case, the vaginal muscles close. The muscles will only open, when you become relaxed.
Having vaginismus does not stop you experiencing sexual desire. When the moment becomes more intimate, this triggers your stress response. Possibly the fear of actually having sex and the pain you may experience (if that is your association with sex) will override any sexual desire. This stress response likens any penetration to be a threat to your life.
What happens in the stress response is that all energy and blood must go to where it is needed – the arms and legs. Non-essential work is left aside. It makes sense to your mind that if your body is under threat, you are not having sex as you are fighting or running from your threat.
You are relaxing within yourself. And more comfortable with your sexual self. If we can eliminate what you overheard “sex hurts the first time”, “only loose girls have sex”, “you’ll get pregnant”, “only men enjoy sex”. Whatever statements are running a programme in your mind can be re-written.
How Does Hypnotherapy Help?
Hypnosis is a relaxation for the mind and body. In this relaxed state, we can teach the mind on how you want to be in an intimate setting. You are not under my control. It is an intense focus of what is going on inside you. Where your fears live, when the anxiety builds.
By doing this you are learning:
- the physiological process that is occurring;
- how to keep the blood flow in your vaginal area;
- to lubricate naturally.
It is about becoming more at ease with your sexual side. Sexual anxiety does not need to cause issues in relationships. Help is available.
If you have been abused or attacked in your past, we can clear this also. Your mind wants to protect you but it cannot tell the difference between a loving act or an abuse of power. In this case, we heal the past to enable you to experience a fulfilling part of your life.