Blushing – An obvious sign of discomfort.
Darwin noted that young children never blush. Animals don’t blush. Therefore, blushing was a sign that some social norm was broken. It’s associated with embarrassment but is that the reality?
It is interesting how the body and mind connection works. Just by your anticipation, whether positive or negative, you can set in motion a sequence of physiological signs that determine your physical state.
How many times have you said to yourself – “I knew I was going to blush, I just knew it” and then continue to berate yourself with negative self talk? When having to present in front of a group of people either socially or professionally – how many times have you thought “oh no, I just know I’m going to blush”.
The thought of blushing creates anxiety, the anxiety upsets your self confidence and you become locked in a negative cycle. Your blushing is unpredictable. You just never know so you stay on alert. This alert, or alarm, triggers the stress response of fight or flight.
So how can hypnosis help you overcome the redness/blushing?
Hypnosis can help you to relax into situations that previously caused you distress. So thinking that you are going to be calm and relaxed and you face is pale and cool sets off a different chain of physiological signs that are for your benefit.
Why? Because you have instructed your subconscious mind by telling it what you want. When you get a sense of dread – that sends signals to subconscious mind and as it is a learned response, it does as expected and your face is red with heat.
Remember your subconscious mind does not register the word “not”. We have a tendency to talk in the negative. “I don’t want…”. Your mind cancels “n’t” and gives you what you asked for!
Some Tips To Interrupt Blushing:
This takes practice. To overcome blushing (hypnosis cannot claim to cure), you need to plan your new responses to blushing provoking situations. Think about the following:
- How do you want to feel?
- How do you want to behave physically and emotionally?
Start your answers with: “I want to be…” “I want to feel…” – there is no “I don’t want…”. Tell yourself what you do want. How are you standing, what is your facial expression? All these are important because they give life to the “new, improved” you.
Remember, to learn how to blush, you had to experience some emotionally upsetting trauma or incident that was profound to penetrate your subconscious mind. Blushing may not have even occurred. But it is whenever attention was upon you in a negative sense and anxiety was present.The blushing became the mind’s way to protect you, to make you avoid situations that make you uncomfortable.
However to continue to blush affects your confidence and self esteem. How can you feel confidence if the internal alert is raised watch out for blushing.
Why work with me?
Firstly, there is no one size fits all when it comes to hypnotherapy. I am talking to you about what you want to achieve. The solutions are within you and I am helping to create the image, the wording, the confidence to bring about this change.
I am helping go from where you are now and looking forward to how you want to be. We deal with the “part” of you in control of blushing and give it a new job, a more positive benefit to you. At the same time, we are boosting the “part” of you that wants to be free of this affliction.
You will not stop blushing in one session. But imagine if the number of times you blushed was reduced and the duration of the blush lessened, would that boost your confidence?
Your mind begins to develop the changes and with this, your confidence improves. Each time a situation, where you previously blushed, presents itself, you are better able to get through it.
It is about installing a better image of yourself. We are working from the inside out to get your mind to work for you, rather than against.
I offer appointments in Limerick, Portlaoise and Dublin.