Social Anxiety is your mind’s way of protecting you from pain.
Can you remember the first time you felt:
- made to feel ashamed of who you were?
Whether it one specific traumatic occasion or a series of situations, your mind made the decision to protect you. In its wisdom, the best course of action was avoidance. Failure to avoid being with others has resulted in severe discomfort and panic. The anxiety feelings you experience are there to tell you to run away. But this isn’t the answer. You cannot avoid being with people. If you do, your world becomes very small.
But the answer doesn’t lie in forcing yourself to endure what should be pleasant experiences.
Would it not be better to learn how to cope better with social anxiety and understand the feelings running inside of you?
What we resist, persists.
Social anxiety is a fear based emotion. Your expectation is that others will judge you, that you will have to be funny or no one will like you. You get stuck in your head about the what ifs and the panic becomes the fight against your social anxiety. Fighting (resisting) feeds the fear.
You have done so much thinking about what can gone wrong, you still end up surprised when it actually pans out. Your thoughts have guided your fear, recalling the past traumas. And yet somehow there is a hope that things will be different this time. Somehow, people will see the real you, the funny you, the easy going you. But if you don’t feel it or believe in these yourself, how can others feel and believe it about you.
Can I stop social anxiety?
You have no doubt read everything about social anxiety, you may have gone for counselling, tried other therapies but unless you have connected with the old programming that is running your social anxiety i.e. people = pain, you will only ever achieve a slight relief.
You have to go deep inside yourself. To you subconscious/unconscious responses. You have to find the control panel, the inner you that is operating the social anxiety react. We have to engage with the part of you and ask for its help.
There is significance in going through this process. You can cut the emotional tie to that memory. While we cannot change what has happened, the goal with hypnosis is take the emotional connection away so that you can be free to move forward with your life. This is clinical hypnotherapy. It is not going to sleep and waking up cured. It is about you doing some hard work. The fear is there for a reason and it remains until the reason for its existence is overridden by the need to able to live a normal life.
The pain you suffer, that is triggered by your social phobia, was recorded in your subconscious as a scene from which you needed protection. With social anxiety, your thinking process and body language is inwards. You either trying to curl up into a ball, to disappear as you feel you have no right to take up the space you do or you take up the space you occupy. This idea of disappearing or wanting to escape while a protection for you compounds your social anxiety as each time you have to be with others, you struggle more and more.
If you feel you are always on the edge of the group, physically there but never quite emotionally present, then let me help you with hypnosis become the person you want to be.
I can help you to move your thoughts to focus on what is actually going on rather than your perception – focusing outwards rather than inwards. There is no need to continue to suffer as you are allowing some past event to shape your future. If you want to gain control of your thoughts and emotions, contact me below. Appointments in Limerick city centre.