Self Esteem. Where does it come from?
Our self esteem derives from external sources. As a child we develop opinions about ourselves by how the adults around us react to us.
Self esteem = self worth
If this is negative – that you are not good enough or you’re stupid or you’ll never amount to anything – what picture of yourself do you think you have?
Does this mean it’s true? Consider the source of information?
A child takes in this information and now self esteem is developed accordingly. A child’s mind does not know how to reject such information.
Now that you are an adult, can you see how the information gained about yourself from the outside world may have been flawed?
Did you live up to (or down to) the expectations?
As you are reading this, I suspect you want to change – why because you are querying the validity of the information.
You have the responsibility to change, now that you know it is possible.
Low self esteem is about having little internal value. This produces fear. You have only trusted the negative imagines sent your way. This has brought you pain.
How many times have you accepted a criticism as being true but dismiss a positive, for example, doing a good job? Does your past have to define your future?
What if I told you this can be changed?
- That you could feel different inside, feeling calmer where there used to be chaos?
- Would it make a difference to no longer be stuck?
- You it don’t need years of therapy or blaming others?
I always assume the reader is looking to make a change.
It requires a shift in your mind-set. It is scary and exciting. This is not about laying blame. It is about installing new patterns of behaviour, learning to like yourself, turning off the inner critic.
Hypnotherapy can help facilitate the change. We treat the symptom and the cause thereby freeing you from the limits you have placed upon yourself due to other’s opinions.
When you have low self esteem, deep down you are still the little child looking for recognition, for love, acceptance.
In a nutshell, with hypnotherapy, we can quickly access the subconscious mind where all the memories that condensed to make you feel the way you do are stored.
To build self esteem means building your security within yourself. To trust yourself. Conscious awareness is not enough. You have to develop the ability to validate yourself. To love yourself.
While you have developed and matured, the self image formed stays as your child self. The beauty of hypnosis and hypnotherapy is that it is a short course of therapy to let go of the past and begin afresh. Past programming is undone. Increase your self worth and you find that you have the confidence to reject people and situations that no longer serve you.
I would like to end on this note: you must realise that your mind is like a heat seeking missile – what you focus on comes to be. Look at the negative and everything will be negative, look for the positive and a whole new wonderful world opens up.
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