Dealing with the loss of a baby is never easy especially when there is nothing physical to bury. You need time to heal and to adjust. You need to grieve for your physical loss, what might have been and what is now gone.
With hypnosis and this is from personal experience, I learned to make peace with my loss (2 miscarriages) and overcome the feeling that I was somehow to blame. No-one can comfort you and people will make comments that you do not need or want to hear. Only you can ever know how you feel. I found hypnosis to be helpful in beating myself up less about my loss and to know my husband too had suffered loss. We had each other.
Then there was the struggle to become pregnant again, the stress of each month of the reminder that I was still not pregnant. Again learning to reduce the anxiety and the effect of stress on the adrenal glands and how the precious Progesterone is absorbed by the adrenal glands to make cortisol. The flight or flight response will be more important the making a baby and all resources are funnelled into energy to the legs and arms.
I became less focused on what wasn’t happening and focused on other things and most importantly returning to my more joyful self.
With hypnosis and hypnotherapy I found it was about looking into the future and not being afraid of seeing what I wanted. I started to lift my head up and engage with the world. There is daylight every day even though the blind man cannot see it.
I had to work through my feelings of a tendency not to complete things I started (so you see how well miscarriage compounded that issue for me!). Sometimes we can be afraid to hope in an effort to protect ourselves. But does this fear make the outcome any more bearable, no, you are already ready feeling down.
If you would like to talk and find peace with your miscarriage (or miscarriages) and reduce your stress and fear of miscarrying again, please call me on 086 1038892 or email zita@zitastanley.com. Appointments in Limerick.
Don’t be alone. I cannot promise that it will not happen again but I can help you not to go into that dark place so many of us find ourselves.
If you are unable to see me in person, please visit my colleagues at Hypnosis Downloads.
