Have you always lacked confidence? Or have bad relationships (friendships/significant others) made you feel bad about yourself? If you are constantly being fed negative words/actions about yourself, have you ever stopped to look at the source of this information. What fears and inferiority complexes are being projected onto you? These become absorbed by your subconscious mind to become part of you. Having that nagging voice inside you telling yourself that you can’t do something or telling yourself that you are stupid.
Learning to be confident is a state of mind. Communication is 7% verbal, 38% is tone of voice and 55% is non-verbal (i.e. body language). So it is not what you say but how you say it. It is also about communicating with yourself in a positive way. What you feel inside projects outside.
Have you seen someone and thought “I wish I had their confidence”? If you have ever wondered what it would be like to be confident then you can learn ways to be a confident version of yourself. It is not about being someone obnoxious. It is about an improved version of yourself that is calmly confident. It is about you being able to feel at ease within yourself whether your boss is speaking to you or whether you have to give a presentation. This even applies in a social situation (romantic or non romantic). When you feel anxious and lacking self assurance you may feel this distress within you, your stomach may be churning, your mind goes blank, you may feel that you are sweating excessively. These physiological symptoms can be interrupted. With the power of your own mind you can stop and reverse the feeling and you know, when one step is interrupted, the sequence is broken and therefore no longer happens.
The “what if” sensation can be replaced with a more positive mantra - of “what is”. The “what is” focuses you on what is now rather than projecting into the future. What if the worst does happen, does worrying about it make you more prepared – no, it just prolongs the agony – (s)he who worries before it is necessary, worries more than is necessary! Once you take away the fear, you have control. What makes you think you could not handle something – who told you that you were inept? You do the negative thinking so well, think about how great you would be at thinking positively. Hypnosis and NLP can give you the skills that you need to do this. What could you achieve professionally if you were the confident, at ease self you wish to be with the conscientious part of you in proportion to the task at hand? It is not about eradicating your cautious side but to get it to act appropriately. What difference would be confident and at ease make to your personal relationships.
When you feel confident, what goes on inside your body, inside your mind? It is this focus within yourself with hypnosis and NLP that will make lasting change. You are learning to think about what you want for yourself rather than what you don’t want. With any change, it is important to have a signal to yourself that this has happened.
How would you know that you were becoming confident? These are the areas that are addressed in a hypnosis and nlp session. We cannot change the past but we can change the emotional connection. If the record inside your head is telling you that you will amount to nothing – change it; if the voice is loud and screaming – tell to shut up. We all have an internal representation of what is going on whether it is a feeling, a noise, a pain that stops you being confident. We can change what is going on inside you.
If you are ready to be confident call me on 086 1038992 or email zita@zitastanley.com. Appointments at 64 Catherine Street, Limerick.