Zita Stanley

Today I’m going to focus on the milder type blushing.  Blushing at work or avoiding situations where the focus will be on you at work rather the blushing associated with social anxiety.

This milder form of blushing responds very well to what is termed suggestion therapy whereby we focus on the symptoms and reverse them.  No therapy is involved.  In my practice I found that adding the dimension of boosting confidence can achieve very good results indeed.  You may be confident and lively with your family and friends but at work it is the opposite.  You hear your name called at work and you automatically assume you have done something wrong and then blushing begins as a physical reminder to everyone of how you are feeling.  Or perhaps you fine at work until you have to present, until you have to be under scrutiny.  What happens to you, do you avoid presentations altogether or spend all the time you have setting up the image of a big red face, getting tongue-tied, dry mouth, sweaty palms and whatever else you want to add.  Remember, as you set this scenario in your head, your subconscious is eager to please you and sets this very unwanted images in train so that you go red, have no train of thought etc.  So what to do, there are two big steps to take.

1.  Remember your subconscious mind does not recognise the word “not” or “no” so when you say to yourself “stop blushing”, your subconscious mind flicks through its internal dictionary, ignores “stop” and presents you with blushing - well after all you did ask for blushing”.  So we must change your thoughts to “my face is pale and cool” to counter the redness and heat.  So now you say “my face is pale and cool” and your subconscious mind flicks through its dictionary for what pale and cool mean and hey presto, your face is pale and cool.  Playing your hypnotic CD, which I make at your session specific to your needs, for 3 weeks helps to re-enforce these new suggestions.

2. Confidence:  Does a confident person blush?  No.  So now we must reduce the feelings of anxiety, you know that butterfly feeling in your tummy and send it to the excitement road so that you are animated and dare I say it, enjoying your performance.  Again, playing your CD helps to re-enforce the suggestions which are for your benefit and remind your subconscious of what confidence means to you.

Two to three sessions are all that is usually required and we go through visualization techniques and other things to help build your armory so that you go into battle fully prepared.

To stop blushing and boost confidence with hypnosis call me on 086 1038892.  Baggot Street, Dublin 2.

Tags: Blushing, Confidence, General //