What does confidence mean to you? How do you know someone is confident without even talking to them? As children develop, they learn by copying/mirroring what their significant adults do. So too as an adult you can use this to your advantage. Imagine someone real or from tv that looks confident to you (this is the neurolinguistic programming part) - a confidence you can relate to. See them in their setting and notice how others respond to them. Look at the subject – how do they stand, hold themselves, express themselves. Remember what actually comes out of your mouth only accounts for 7% of communication! So if your posture and voice are not congruent, others will pick up on this. Now step into the subject’s body and see the world through the eyes, move around, be them – it’s like trying on clothes – check the fit. You are that person. How do you feel? How do you feel about the people around you. Feel the connection between “you” and the group. Feels good? Doesn’t it. Now go back into yourself bringing back those good feelings. How do you feel now? What has changed – there is a shift in pattern now. You can feel it. Practice this for a few minutes every day and notice how subtle the changes are but you know it’s working by how others interact with you. Hypnosis and NLP can help to develop this feeling. Visualisation techniques are important in confidence – seeing and believing that you are strong and confident and able to handle any situation that arises in a competent manner as the mind does not know the difference between what is real or imaged, this works to your advantage.
If you are tired of being the wallflower, what steps do you need to take to make your confident self shine – by calling me for an appointment and within a very short period of time, you are seeing and feeling different about yourself. You rightfully take up your space!
For more information contact Zita at 086 1038892 or email zita@zitastanley.com. Dublin and Limerick.
