During an session with me, one of the checks that must be done is what is called an “ecological check”. You want to change some habit whether it is stop smoking, stop over-eating, lose weight, stop biting nails, overcome fear etc. But are the people in your life ready for you to change. Have you noticed that if lose weight some friends will feel threatened by it to the point of telling you that you look ill or “encourage” you to have more cake. Or for the smoker, trying to tempt you with cigarettes by blowing smoke in your face or leaving you out of conversations. This is something you need to think about and how you feel now that your position within your group changes. Although not everyone will welcome the change, others will delight in your success. You need to ensure that you are strong enough to deal with the “downside” of your positive change. This is peer pressure even in your 30s and 40s. You have dared to be different, to stand up and make a change.
Be strong and brave. There’s a new world out there for a new you. Awareness that not everyone will be delighted with the change will give you strength. You will be tested but you will be strong and delight in your resolve to continue and maintain your change.
To book an appointment in Portlaoise, Co. Laois or Baggot Street, Dublin 2 – zita@zitastanley.com
