Do you lack confidence? Do friends and colleagues think you are confident but inside you are like jelly? Most people have a friend or know someone that is always the centre of attention (not necessarily drawing attention to themselves) but someone who attracts people. People feel good around them. Let’s do a little experiment NLP experiment:
- Close your eyes;
- Drift out of your body in the confident person’s body;
- What does it feel like, how do you feel about the people surrounding you. Are you standing tall (definitely yes)? How are you reacting to those around you?
- Now go back into your own body bringing some of that good energy with you.
- How do you feel now? I bet it felt good, to feel confident. Use all your senses.
How about spending a couple of minutes every day going into that other person’s body and emulating them. It can be an actor, a character, someone you know. How do they react in a crisis? How do they react in company?
It is not a case of fake it until you make it. It is about you understanding that it is your thought process that makes you confident. More work needs to be done but this is a simple way of acting and being confident. If you get into difficulty remember how would your ideal self behave and act accordingly. You will feel a tremendous sense of power at how you can control how you stand, think and behave. This can be developed further with hypnosis and hypnotherapy – really getting into the subconscious mind to change the way you feel about yourself so that represent the person you really want to be. Appointments: 15 Upper Baggot Street, Dublin 2. Tel: 086 1038992 or tel zita@zitastanley.com.
