This is the involuntary spasm of the vaginal muscles which causes pain when sex is attempted or even medical examinations. The spasms are subconscious associations expecting pain on penetration. Vaginimus is a psychosomatic disorder and this enables successful treatment with hypnotherapy.
Vaginimus is an unusual condition. The idea of penetration can equate to feelings of being attacked or stabbed. Some of this programming can be from overhead stories as a child listening to older women. Some of the fears may be handed down the genetrations to act keep you “pure”. Therefore, feelings of arousal become associated with guilt which can be pushed back into the mind. With involuntary spasms, think of what is happening, the spasms are “closing” the vagina. It is the fight or flight response and therefore, the vagina becomes dry.
While the medical intervention would include dilators, it is important to reprogramme the psychological part of the vaginimus. That sex is a natural expression of desire and that it is “okay” to allow these feelings. As the mind interferes with erections in mind, causes erectile dysfunction, the mind processes are interfering with the body’s natural responses.
As a hypnotherapist, I am providing a safe, comfortable environment where you can relax and work with your mind. We look at any traumatic events that may have made sex feel painful (losing your virginity) or if that has not occurred, how you expects sex to be. What is the subconscious block that is interfering your body’s natural expression. We overcome any negative sexual conditioning from your teenage years and deal with any unfounded fears (that the penis is cause you damage). Thoughts that you are a “bad girl” for having sexual desires need to be re-adjusted as they are coming from your inner self which has somehow been paralyzed and keeps the fear of sex and intimacy at a distance.
The use of hypnotherapy enables us to address the subconscious part of the mind, to explain why you want to feel relaxed at the idea of having sex and to turn down the fear factor this brings on. To reframe the mind that sex is not painful. If we expect fear, then we get fear. (FEAR = False Expectations Appearing Real).
Along with this, we will look at desire and what it feels like to you and how to get the vaginal lubrication going. This is done at your own pace and if you are in a relationship, that your partner agrees to help in the various steps needed without putting any pressure on you so that we can achieve the desired result – to be able to have sex and enjoy it!
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