“Comparison is the thief of joy.” Theodore Roosevelt
Your pregnancy has ended in miscarriage and I am sorry for your loss.
You know (and I know from personal experience) that feeling that keeps nagging you –
what did I do wrong?
why did my baby have to die inside me?
Unfortunately, there is no reason and yet we upset ourselves, looking for the one alcoholic drink we had before we knew we were pregnant or if life had not been so stressful, maybe my baby would have stayed.
These are natural thoughts that run through our minds and are an important part of the grieving process. Our desire for a baby is so strong that the universe suddenly puts pregnant women in our vision, it seems that “everyone” is pregnant, thus rubbing our inadequacy in our faces.
Have you noticed that those around us seem to think we should just “get over it”? As if there is a timeline for grief!
But I guess there is less patience for women who suffer miscarriage because there was no baby to bury. When in fact all our hopes and dreams have been dashed. These were my experiences.
It is important to commemorate your baby’s short existence. It can be just for you or to share with your partner. Your miscarried baby is part of your history. The pain will reduce in time but never fully goes away. You have created an angel.
But it is important that you do not become consumed in your grief because it is a very dark place to be and ultimately, if you fall into a deep depression, you may have to go on medication which will delay a further pregnancy. Thereby compounding your grief and depression further.
Getting pregnant again is now tinged with sadness and fear because you know there may not be a happy ending and part of you is afraid to hope, thereby instilling a fear.
By coming to see me:
I can help you to lift the burden of grief so you do not suffer alone.
You are in a safe environment to speak your fears and address them to enable you to heal.
This is where hypnosis comes. It is a beautiful relaxation that opens a special connection to the subconscious mind.
While no-one can promise you a baby, you will find comfort in knowing that you were in the best place emotionally and physically to conceive a baby. Sometimes it is just about being able to rest deeply to allow the mind and body to repair and recuperate from your loss. In this way, you can think about is and what can be and how your baby would enrich your life.
I would be delighted to help you to find peace.
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when you are ready