I remember in college there was a very shy young man. We were all first years, enjoying our first freedom being away from home and supervision. This young man rarely engaged in conversation in the lecture hall or in the canteen. I saw him at a party, sitting in the corner. He had brought his own drink and kept to himself. Then out of what seemed like nowhere, he became the life the soul of the party. It was fun to see him enjoying himself. He was bright and enjoyable company but then he took a turn for the worst, he started to become obnoxious, deliberately bumping into people and making them spill their drinks. He was a nuisance. That was the first time I had witnessed such a change in personality – to go from withdrawn, to socially acceptable, to downright rude. This was the alcohol taking over.
Of course, little did I know the impact this would have on me when treating clients with social anxiety, no confidence or lack of self esteem (and usually a combination of all). Using alcohol is self medication, trying to find a way to at least tolerate the social interaction, enjoying the feeling of being part of something and the need to want to continue the feeling, by drinking more, results in black-outs and behaviour that you do not want to be know for.
That’s one side of drinking too much. Using it as a confidence booster but going overboard and demonstrating ugly traits. With hypnotherapy, I am helping you to develop your confidence from within. Alcohol (or drugs or cigarettes or food) is just symptomatic of upset deep inside. Part of the therapy is thinking about how you want to be and what it would be like not to need alcohol as a crutch.
Or perhaps you started having a glass of wine or a whiskey to unwind after a busy day. You found you slept well. Then the association begins of drink helping to unwind and it becomes a “need”. What was one glass, becomes two and one morning you shock yourself by realising that you drank a bottle of wine by yourself. You being to hide your bottles at the bottle bank or go at times when “no-one” will be around so you can hide the evidence. You find yourself needing a little top up during the day and before you know it, your life begins to revolve around your need to drink. The alcohol has taken over. You must have it and you begin to hide and become very adept at hiding the evidence but of course, your face gives the signal, your eyes, your skin.
Hypnotherapy and NLP are therapies to move you out of your addiction in the fastest possible time. No dwelling in the past and reliving bad times, it is about moving and stepping into your new dry life.
If alcohol is affecting your life, call me on 086 1038892 or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I offer appointments in Limerick, Dublin and Portlaoise. You have to be ready to let go of your frenemy and I can help show you the way.