Zita Stanley

It was with interest I read an article in 11th August 2008 Irish Independent Health and Living Supplement about fertility coaching. Have you noticed that when trying to get pregnant or having suffered miscarriage, all you see and hear are babies and pregnant women. It is like the universe has conspired to rub your face in something you do not have. No doubt mothers will be shouting at children or you see very young looking pregnant girls and you think “why them”, “they don’t even want their children”. It gets harder and harder to see anything else - waiting each month and the disappointment when you know you are not pregnant. It is no wonder you are stressed. Mental and physical stress wears out you and imagine what this pressure does to your ovaries - it’s like the tighten up because the rest of you is tightly wound up. Even the very act of baby making is pressure - am I pregnant now? legs up to help the sperm travel? Your personality changes, there is no joy because you are consumed with becoming pregnant or the lack of pregnancy and yet there is nothing wrong with you or your partner.

With hypnosis, you can learn to relax mentally and physically. Let the mental tiredness disappear, so that you start to put things in perspective. Hypnosis can help you to visualise a  baby in your future so that there is hope that is not tainted with fear of failure.  Feeling the contentment without sadness is a stepping stone to relaxing your reproductive system.

Another session will be visualizing your egg accepting your partner’s sperm and the union making a baby.

As not every couple will become parents, an important question to ask yourself is “will you both be content and happy in a family of just 2″.  If planning IVF, the stress alone needs a very strong relationship.

Let hypnosis help you to unwind and ease your mind from the stress of not being pregnant.

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Hypnotherapists do not “rescue” you from whatever problem you  have whether it is anxiety, smoking, nail biting etc.  Your hypnotherapist helps you  to discover or learn more resourceful ways of thinking, behaving, acting, responding so that you are empowered.  It is only with finding these resources from within will you ever truly overcome your problem.

So whatever emotional upset or habit you want to break, let me be your guide and call me on 086 1038892 now.

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Whatever change you want to make, you need some form of motivation or otherwise you would not change. Make change is never easy whether it is to stop smoking, lose weight, get focused on the job you want, motivation to set up your own business, gain confidence you will need some help. Hypnosis is such a focused tool at your disposal to give you laser focus on what you want. Hypnosis helps to concentrate your mind on that one change. Remember, you can only work on one change at a time (that’s why New Year Resolutions fail - we try too many changes and achieve nothing). Listening to a hypnotic CD/MP3 reminds your subconscious mind that you want to change. The theory is to make change permanent it takes 21 days for it to be fully absorbed by the subconscious mind.

If you are new to hypnosis and hypnotherapy, what has stopped you in the past from fulfilling your goals, was it the little voice in your head telling you that you “don’t deserve it”, “not good enough”, “no time”, “that’s not for you” - you get the drift. If you feel this is the obstacle because the voice gets so loud you must obey it then please consider hypnosis where we can access your subconscious and quieten the voice once and for all.

Do you really want to end your days regretting the things you didn’t do? You can be and/or change anything about yourself that you are not happy with - hypnosis helps you to feel confidence that you can achieve your goals. Sometimes it is easier to choose the safe option and continue to complain and feel sorry for yourself but if you want to change and get the feeling that you can change through hypnosis who knows what you can achieve.

Call me now to book an appointment on 086 1038892.

Baggot Street, Dublin 2.

Skype - email me if you would like to have a session using Skype - zita@zitastanley.com

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At the basics of hypnosis and hypnotherapy is to take what works for you and make it better so that the positive outweighs the negative, your thinking process is engaged towards solutions rather than possible problems, you are practical with regard to worrying, you manage stress adequately, concentrate on a pale face so you stop blushing, you act confidence physically and the internal confidence builds inside you.  What happens, one day comes and you haven’t had to think about the steps necessary to stop blushing, stop smoking etc.  Your mind automaticallly (and that is your subconscious mind) goes to positive thoughts.  We all have something that works for us deep down inside.  We have forgotten it.  You have over the years trained your mind to automatically think the worst and this causes anxiety.  Why does it cause anxiety?  Because it is not really who you are.  We should always strive to be better, to push ourselves out of the comfort zone, to see opportunity.  Take what you have that works at any level and build on that so that it thrives with good thoughts, perhaps training or practicing whatever it takes to get it better.

For self improvement in any area of your life, make the call now 086 1038892.  Baggot Street Dublin 2.  You have the power within you, let me show you how to unlock the secret to your subconscious mind!

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Immediate relief of symptoms - doesn’t that sound good. That’s what hypnotherapy offers you - imagine slight nervousness which turns to excitement, your face pale and cool, your hands dry, your voice strong, you are standing tall with shoulders back and in a relaxed position, your heart beating normally, your stomach at ease. What would that mean to you? Would the new confident you do a different job, or enjoy life a little bit more? Sometimes sufferers get (understandably so) avoidant with their behaviour that they forget to think what life would be life with blushing was under control and the associated anxiety would subside and whatever knock-on effects usually occurred were gone because there was nothing to trigger them. What if you could look, dare I say, it forward to some social activity. Of course this is possible. You didn’t always blush or feel anxious. Children and animals do not blush. Children are born with a natural fearlessness that we learn to over-ride as we get older! So you didn’t always feel this blushing or anxiety. But now it has overwhelmed your life (for some) or become a feature to hold you back. Hypnosis and hypnotherapy can help you to overturn these symptoms and you learn immediate relief. Doesn’t that sound wonderful. However, hypnosis is not a cure for blushing. Hypnosis (a concentrated relaxation) makes you more aware of the “set up” in the process of blushing and anxiety so you step in earlier to stop a full blushing and anxiety attack. Hypnotherapy is a short concentrated solution focused therapy - with concentration and solution on being whatever you need - more confidence, higher self esteem, learning how to deal with authority or whatever your trigger happens to be.

Make the change and make the call now 086 1038892 and you can experience the benefits of hypnosis and hypnotherapy on your blushing and anxiety.

Baggot Street, Dublin 2.

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Hypnotherapy is therapy carried out under hypnosis which essentially allows you to make change very quickly. The focus is the one change you wish to make in your life and a short, concise and focused therapy to help you build your self reliance. You gain the opportunity to harness the new and re-ignited skills within yourself in the future. It is about raising your self belief that you can be stop smoking, lose weight, get the great job you want, have a family, find a partner, overcome depression and anxiety, stop blushing or whatever change you wish to make.

You must want to make the change and believe that change for you is possible - you don’t have to believe in the process but be open minded. Expect positive change and look forward to positive change! Take a moment right now to write down goals for each area of your life - let’s face it, if you were content as you are now you wouldn’t be reading this. Write down the categories - lifestyle, health, family, relationships, financial, educational - whatever areas are in your life. Then list the goals or aspirations you have in each category. Now the most important is to timeline them so you see at a glance what the most pressing issue is for you. Hypnosis is great to help clarify our thoughts and organize the areas in your life.

Then set out the tasks you need to take to make each goal a reality - do you have to connect with someone, do you have do a course, do you have _________? Again set out a to-do list with these. Remember the day is not over until you can tick off everything on your life. Life being life, no doubt you may be thrown a curve ball but re-arrange the timeline - it’s not set in stone but don’t let things slide because of laziness.

For more help on focusing your mind or changing an unwanted habit call 086 1038892.

Office in Baggot Street, Dublin 2.

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When you are feeling unsure of yourself and negative thoughts are roaming around your mind - do they have a voice? (And I don’t mind auditory hallucinations). Turn up the volume and listen closely - is your voice but not your words, do you recognise the voice? No doubt if you recognise the voice it will be a significant adult from when you were a child, an overcritical parent, a frightening teacher or whoever. Childhood and around the age 6/7 we “learn” to feel bad about ourselves. At school everything must be uniform i.e. the same - don’t stand out, dress the same as everyone, do this now, do it this way. We learn that some will be better than others at different tasks - compare and see how you are? Negative comments about underperforming in school. Children learn in different ways and at different speeds. What messages did you receive about you?

Do you remember waiting anxiously for the school report in the summer? How would your parents react? Tension and anxiousness and from what age? - 9/10/11 earlier?

This is why we “learn” to dread/fear performance situations whether it is addressing a group at work, going for interview, meeting someone new - we bring all the tensions and anxieties about performance received as a child and we are in reality reverting to that scared little child, waiting for the approval/disapproval of the “adult”.

What was learned can be re-learned to a more productive way of behaving. Self help and hypnotherapy can help you undo this damage but only if you really want to. Some people may be happy to continue living in their comfort zone while logically “trying” to change themselves. These people are going through the motions because there is a contentment in knowing and staying where you are now. Change is fear but necessary fear to move forward to no longer stay in a quagmire but really to embrace change and changing fear to excitement because you can do that. Anxiety and excitement have the same root it just depends on which route you take.

Office: Baggot Street, Dublin 2, Ireland

email: zita@zitastanley.com

Call: 086 1038892

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Any self help that uses hypnosis is going to be more successful. Why? Because you must tackle the underlying issues and they are usually anxiety based or a fear that stops you from being the best you can be. Hypnotherapy is therapy using hypnosis to help you make changes a change at a subconscious level. This is where the problem started and as one could, you must “return to the scene of crime”. This return is to help you let go, release unresolved upset, even guilt. Then you rebuild and look forward knowing that the past no longer has a hold over you. All hypnosis is self hypnosis and as such you are learning a valuable self help tool to aid you in making other changes in your life. Some might say that “self help” is an oxymoron if you are actually seeing a therapist, reading books, going on self improvement courses. Any help that helps your inner self is of benefit but as long as you gaining benefit. We can be logical about the way the negative way we behave and have what psychiatrists term “insight” i.e. a good understanding but this does not solve the problem or deal with the symptoms you fee. Why not? Because the hurt to the inner self did not happen on a logical basis - if it did we would not have any problems.

Self help is about healing, letting go of negativity, release guilt. What is the underlying symptom you feel? This can take a little while to untangle as over the years you have added to it. With hypnotherapy we must have a focus - a solution to work towards. One change at a time is necessary and important because the subconscious mind can only deal with one change at a time. Take the time to explore hypnosis to see how it can help with your self help actions.

Baggot Street.

Available for online therapy and webcam sessions.

Call 086 1038892

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What woman doesn’t dream of her baby being born into a calm, relaxed environment? This dream can be a reality using hypnosis for childbirth. You can achieve the birth you want for you baby by using the power of your own mind to control the pain so it is manageable for you as you work with your body to deliver the baby.

There is a reason why birthing pains are called “labour” – you have to work at it and look what you are getting in return. It may be the hardest day’s work you will ever do! Think of how amazing your body is to push your baby gently down the birth canal while your cervix softens in preparation for your baby’s arrival into the world!

Hypnosis helps by allowing you to rest deeply (between contractions) to give you extra energy for the next push. Remember each contraction is a step closer to seeing your baby!

Hypnosis for childbirth is at a different level of trance. You are fully aware at all times – this is important if you have to make any informed decisions. Remember hypnosis in no way interferes with whatever medical intervention is required. Hypnosis gives you a pain relieving choice.

Benefits of using hypnosis as a pain relief method is that you can have a drug free birth so no side effects for baby. It significantly shortens labour as you work with your body. When we feel pain our initial reaction is to fight it and we experience anxiety which rushes through your body increasing the pain. Hypnosis works the opposite way – you are relaxed and can manage the pain as it is working for you and with you to deliver your baby. Another benefit is that the birthing environment is calm and relaxed. The feeling of empowerment as your baby is delivered is indescribable.

Hypnosis allows you to eliminate the fear, stress and anxiety associated with giving birth. You get the birth you want. Natural childbirth does not have to be painful. Isn’t that wonderful?

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All focus (or so it seems) is on you - you feel your face going red, your heart beating as though it is about to jump out your chest (or your mouth), sweating palms, you begin to dissociate, you mouth stops working and you feel as though you are slurring your words.  Do this seem familiar?  You are not alone.  Every dealing with more than one person is an ordeal you anticipate.

What begins to happen is that you anticipate the above happening and you set the image in your mind of being uncomfortable and feeling very nervous and anxiety and hey presto, that is exactly what happens.  And so the vicious circle continues….

Your mind does not know the difference between what is real or what is imagined - you set the standard and it follows suit - after all, it is only doing what you expect.

With hypnosis you are using relaxation and visualisation techniques to help you see and believe yourself being calm and in control.  As with most things, it does take a lot of practice but it does make a huge difference to your life.   Depending on the level of anxiety, hypnotherapy will be the perf

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