Counselling Hypnotherapy, Hypnosis, NLP: Dublin 2 Tel: 086 1038892 » Shyness

Changing your habits with hypnosis

Zita — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 10:18:56 +0000

During an session with me, one of the checks that must be done is what is called an “ecological check”. You want to change some habit whether it is stop smoking, stop over-eating, lose weight, stop biting nails, overcome fear etc. But are the people in your life ready for you to change. Have you noticed that if lose weight some friends will feel threatened by it to the point of telling you that you look ill or “encourage” you to have more cake. Or for the smoker, trying to tempt you with cigarettes by blowing smoke in your face or leaving you out of conversations. This is something you need to think about and how you feel now that your position within your group changes. Although not everyone will welcome the change, others will delight in your success. You need to ensure that you are strong enough to deal with the “downside” of your positive change. This is peer pressure even in your 30s and 40s. You have dared to be different, to stand up and make a change.

Be strong and brave. There’s a new world out there for a new you. Awareness that not everyone will be delighted with the change will give you strength. You will be tested but you will be strong and delight in your resolve to continue and maintain your change.

To book an appointment in Portlaoise, Co. Laois or Baggot Street, Dublin 2 – zita@zitastanley.com

Women and Confidence

Zita — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 01:46:05 +0000

Have you noticed that your confidence can vary? In your single days, you could do anything but then a partner and children come along and I often wonder if it is because we are so pulled in all directions that sometimes we can have a crisis of confidence. Having children may make us feel more vulnerable, we worry about them and for them. It is no longer just “about you”.

Single girls will have their own stresses. Mothers and grandmothers wondering why you are still not married and perhaps you’ve heard your mother say “she’s fussy”. What if you don’t want a man in your life – society makes judgement and God forbid you opt to be a single parent! Despite living in the 21st century, we are expected to be a good wife and mother, take a back seat at work (well, men have to provide for families is the thought) and be everything to everyone.

Hypnosis can give you time for you. The relaxation from it is a great way to unwind from the stresses and strains of life. Play it as you drift off to sleep and wake up refreshed and invigorated.

Contact: zita@zitastanley.com

Stop Smoking in just one session.

Zita — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 00:51:42 +0000

Now the weather is getting colder, do you really want to be standing outside in the cold and wet just for the sake of a cigarette? What would life be like for you if cigarettes were no longer present? That’s what I focus on in my session with you. What you really want to achieve? A sense of achievement and personal pride. Having a better professional image now that the smell of cigarettes have gone. Your skin looking clear and great. Having more energy. These are all possible using hypnosis. Hypnosis has nothing to do with will power. You can stop smoking as long as you really want to. If you smoke for confidence or stress, then use hypnosis and NLP to help you learn new techniques to deal with confidence and stress.

If you are ready to make the change, email me: zita@zitastanley.com for appointments in Portlaoise, Co. Laois or Baggot Street, Dublin 2.

World Mental Health Day 10th October 2008

Zita — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 20:01:57 +0000

Today is World Mental Health Day.

I believe that women are under immense stress in this century.

You can have it all as long as the everything is what you want and not what your mother or society forces upon you. When I qualified it was my wish to present a caring and nuturing environment for women to express what bothered them – things they may not tell their closest friends. How to grieve for a lost baby, how to deal with not becoming pregnant, how to open yourself up to love, how to present yourself with confidence in a non threatening way etc. Then there are the other issues, difficulty in relationships, difficulty with children from bedwetting to adolescence. How to cope with the changes a newborn brings or how to find inner peace if these things do not come your way. Depression is more common now among young women and I believe it is because we try to live up to the demands that society places upon us. Hypnosis can give you an outlet. Your subconscious mind records the hurts that you try to hide but they are still there. Anger, guilt and resentment will eat away. Releasing negative emotions with hypnosis can free you mentally and physically. Have you ever used the expression “part of me” – well, there are different parts to you and if there is conflict then there is unease. By accessing the subconscious mind with hypnosis, you can allow the “parts” to express themselves about why they hold onto whatever it is they hold on and then come to an agreement so that you find inner peace.

We only get one life and isn’t it worth getting peace of mind.

Blushing – Overcome it with hypnosis.

Zita — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 01:28:03 +0000

For some people, blushing can be associated with a lack of confidence. Blushing happens when put into a position where you must give an opinion or perhaps talk with someone in authority. So this blushing is more about self consciousness. Hypnosis and NLP have fabulous techniques to help you gain confidence. I am a solution focused hypnotherapist – so the focus is what you want to achieve – face pale and cool, standing with confidence and giving your opinion in an assertive manner.

To become confident, free from blushing and more assertive email me at zita@zitastanley.com. Baggot Street, Dublin 2.

Your thoughts and Hypnosis

Zita — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 09:00:25 +0000

Have you ever noticed that your mood affects how you view things? If you are feeling happy then everything has a positive slant, you can even see something positive from something negative. If, however, you are in a low mood (not depressed) but not feeling on top of things, then the universe seems to put more and more obstacles in your way. Thoughts like “typical, it always happens to me”, “serves me right for doing I was doing something right” will not improve your mood or lift your spirits. Hypnotherapy helps you become aware of the power of your thoughts and your self thoughts. If you don’t feel good about yourself, that comes across in your tone of voice, how you hold yourself. For others, you can put on “a front”, the energy expended not being true to yourself is unreal and they end up feeling worn out and burnt physically and mentally.

When you hear the little voice instead your head telling you that you’re not good enough or who did you think you are – hypnotherapy and NLP can help you create a STOP sign in your mind so that you can silence the voice and change the thoughts have held you back.

You can change the thoughts and the little voice that holds you back – so make the change, make the appointment and email me at zita@zitastanley.com or call 086 1038892. I am always happy to take your call and if distance is a problem, then online therapy using Skype is an alternative way of communicating.

Also email me if you would like a personalised CD/MP3 – you will need to fill out a questionnaire and I record an MP3/CD for you.

Stop Smoking and Hypnosis – what happens in a session?

Zita — Sat, 09 Aug 2008 00:05:32 +0000

In a typical stop smoking with hypnosis – one of the questions I ask is:

“what benefit do you get from smoking?”

EVERYONE answers “none”. But there must be some benefit otherwise you wouldn’t smoke. While in a deeper trance, I ask the question again – responses will vary from “it helps me with stress”, “I feel more confident with a cigarette in my hand”, “it stops me getting fat”. With these answers, the client is recognising the benefit cigarettes and smoking has been giving them. With all hypnosis, the wonderful side effect is relaxation, it will be the only time your mind and body will relax totally. Suggestions on deep breathing and visualisation techniques on stress reducing or stress proving the client’s life will be added or confidence building techniques. With regards to the weight – again we do not substitute one oral habit with another, we look at why the client may think they will gain weight if they stop smoking.

In a stop smoking with hypnosis session, the more exploration into the client’s fears of stopping smoking is done, the better the result.

Then we move into the future pacing stage, seeing yourself free from cigarettes, you are a non-smoker and you look and feel great. You are so proud that you have regained control of your habits and have taken responsibility to remaining and staying a non-smoker. (Hypnotherapists prefer the term “smokefree” – the positive of non-smoker).

With an image of how you want and desire to be free from cigarettes, a image begins to form inside your mind, just a like a photograph developing, darker at first and then images become more clear until it is so bright and full of colour that you can feel that excitement of having lovely skin, smelling nice, feeling so proud of yourself. Get that image forming now you are full of energy, breathing is easier, you look great and feel fantastic.

Don’t you deserve this image of yourself? To stop smoking now call me on 086 1038892. Upper Baggot Street and Portlaoise.

Stop Smoking and Hypnosis.

Zita — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 14:05:31 +0000

Using hypnosis to stop smoking can identify that part of you that has sabotaged your efforts in the past. Your subconscious mind works for your benefit and will not relinquish a habit unless the underlying need it serves is met with an alternative more beneficial substitute is offered. This is the re-programming aspect of hypnosis and NLP to help you remain and stay free of cigarettes so that you stop smoking forever.

So, you must want to stop smoking for yourself. We look at how smoking has “helped” you in your past and devise new coping strategies for, say, stress (if you feel smoking relaxes you – it doesn’t by the way it actually increases the stress cycle going on in your body). So that you are armed with new techniques to help you in the future, where before you reached for a cigarette. Stop smoking with hypnosis is a pleasant experience and the emphasis is how wonderful it will be for you to finally kick the habit for good.

If you’re ready to stop smoking now, call me on 086 1038892.

15 Upper Baggot Street, Dublin 2 or Portlaoise.

Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy – How to overcome unwanted habits

Zita — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 01:43:30 +0000

With the past it is not the event itself that triggers the unwanted response/habit, it is the meaning we attribute to the event that gives it significance. for example, when I think of my grandmother, I’m immediately transported to the smell of freshly baked bread and I’m in her kitchen, remembering the love and warmth of it – not the actual technique of making the bread! When you can see the difference, that’s when we get change happening.

I’ll leave with a quote that you may have heard before:

“if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you always got”.

Ready to break the cycle – email me NOW zita@zitastanley.com

15 Upper Baggot Street easily accessible from city centre.

Why hypnosis works

Zita — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 01:27:54 +0000

You know that you can have insight and be logical about your problem but it doesn’t seem to make any difference to the blushing, anxiety, stress with attempts to stop smoking, lose weight etc. Why? Because we reason with the logical part of the mind, the left side, and where is the hurt that prompted the problem in the first place – it’s in your subconscious mind! The only way to access your subconscious mind is with the use of hypnosis. Hypnosis is a deep relaxation where you are fully aware but are just so relaxed you keep you eyes closed. When in this relaxed state, the subconscious mind will offer up its secrets to the conscious level and in therapy, this can help you to overcome your problem – we find the cause and make it lose its effect! For suggestion therapy, for stop smoking, wart removal or any of the more habit problems, when you are relaxed, suggestions are offered to the subconscious about new ways of looking at what used to be a problem for you.

Only your subconscious mind knows what caused the problem in the first place and only your subconscious mind can make the change. But it is not a magic pill or cure. It is about empowering you. Internal acceptance and validation help you to become the person you really want to be. There is no dependant relationship with me. Solution focused therapy is the method I use so that you are in therapy for the shortest time possible maximum 12 weeks. That is because we start with your goal and work towards it whether it is to feel relaxed in social situations, relaxed being a non smoker, more confident and assertive – with hypnosis you can your own magic happen and it is a tool for life.

Call me to overcome any unwanted habit or to stop the cycle of anxiety which begets more anxiety so that you are going round and round. Be free from your problem, you have the power within you and I can help you access it.

Call 086 1038892 now to book an appointment – 15 Upper Baggot Street, Dublin 2 easily accessible from the city centre or Portlaoise, Co. Laois.

Also available for consultations using Skype.