How many times have you thought “I should exercise…”, or “I should….” and then not done anything? Sometimes we need a kick start to get us motivated to do whatever it is you want to do. There is comfort in doing nothing – if you continue to do nothing, you will of course achieve nothing.

Hypnosis can help you to focus on your goals and get motivation so that you are compelled to actually say to yourself “I am doing…going…etc” – it doesn’t even enter your mind that you have a choice not to do.

Motivation is about taking action, a signal to your mind that you are taking control, no longer a bystander. If you at interested in getting laser focus on any aspect of your life, book an appointment to see me in Portlaoise or Dublin by calling 086 1038892.

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Act on your Ideas.

I had fallen into the classic trap:

Definitely not loosing now is better that maybe winning in the future.

In other words we are so caught up in keeping what we have that we are often afraid of taking the last few steps needed to complete our goals for fear of losing what we have already achieved and ending up with nothing.

By not wanting to lose anything we end up losing everything.

I have a friend who one day mentioned that he’d like to take up squash. At that time I was consulting at a company working with a guy who was a squash fanatic. So I suggested they get together. So they started playing together regularly.

Time after time the squash player would come into work and boast of how he had beat my friend yet again. I asked my friend why he kept playing. “I want to learn how to play squash,” was his answer.

This went on for months. Then one day the squash player came in and said how my friend had “gotten lucky” and beat him. Then he lost to my friend for the second time. The next week the squash fanatic was “very busy now days. It’s hard to find the time.” And he no longer played my friend.

I caught up with my friend and asked him for his side of the story.

His explanation was simple, “I lost 15 games in a row because every time I played him I tried something different. He won 15 games in a row by doing the same thing each and every game. The 16th time I tried something different I won. The 17th time we played I did what I’d done in match 16 he did what he had done in all 16 matches. I won. The 17th time he did the same thing yet again. I built on what I had discovered in match 16. I won again. We never played a 18th match.”

I no longer consult at that firm but from time to time I still run into the fanatical squash player.  I always ask him about his squash games with my friend. He always boasts about beating him 15 times in a row. When I ask when the next game will be he is always too busy to play.

He had learned how to win squash games by playing in a certain way that would get him a certain amount of success. He had learned to judge which players he could beat and which he couldn’t, and so chose which players he would play accordingly. He had decided he had learned enough and didn’t want to learn anything new. So he didn’t.

The trouble is the world keeps changing. New things keep happening all the time.

If you stop learning you will get left behind.

If you need help learning how to learn again, or if you have just gotten a little stuck, phone Declan on 087 2420699 or email declan@zitastanley.com and we will get you moving again.

Single girls will have their own stresses.  Mothers and grandmothers wondering why you are still not married and perhaps you’ve heard your mother say “she’s fussy”.  What if you don’t want a man in your life – society makes judgement and God forbid you opt to be a single parent!  Despite living in the 21st century, we are expected to be a good wife and mother, take a back seat at work (well, men have to provide for families is the thought) and be everything to everyone.

Hypnosis can give you time for you.  The relaxation from it is a great way to unwind from the stresses and strains of life.  Play it as you drift off to sleep and wake up refreshed and invigorated.

Contact: zita@zitastanley.com

I believe that women are under immense stress in this century. 

You can have it all as long as the everything is what you want and not what your mother or society forces upon you.  When I qualified it was my wish to present a caring and nuturing environment for women to express what bothered them – things they may not tell their closest friends.  How to grieve for a lost baby, how to deal with not becoming pregnant, how to open yourself up to love, how to present yourself with confidence in a non threatening way etc.  Then there are the other issues, difficulty in relationships, difficulty with children from bedwetting to adolescence.  How to cope with the changes a newborn brings or how to find inner peace if these things do not come your way.  Depression is more common now among young women and I believe it is because we try to live up to the demands that society places upon us.  Hypnosis can give you an outlet.  Your subconscious mind records the hurts that you try to hide but they are still there.  Anger, guilt and resentment will eat away.  Releasing negative emotions with hypnosis can free you mentally and physically.  Have you ever used the expression “part of me” – well, there are different parts to you and if there is conflict then there is unease.  By accessing the subconscious mind with hypnosis, you can allow the “parts” to express themselves about why they hold onto whatever it is they hold on and then come to an agreement so that you find inner peace.

We only get one life and isn’t it worth getting peace of mind.

Hypnosis will and can help you but before I explain how it is important to understand how your subconscious mind operates.

The subconscious mind does not recognise negative words like “stop” or “not” or “don’t”.  So let’s take the above sentence you might say to yourself “stop blushing” – what the subconscious mind hears is “blushing”.  So it goes through it’s inner dictionary (just a computer, it has programmes and files within it – but more on this another day).

In the dictionary it finds “blushing = red face, throat dry, hands clammy, nervousness in stomach (and whatever else you feel”.  Hey presto, your subconscious mind gives you what you asked!

So you need to re-programme, delete and make a new file: “my face is pale and cool, my hands are dry …. the opposite of the previous symptoms.  It does take practice and like any new skill, the more you practice the better you get.  You can apply this to any situation that previously made you feel uncomfortable.

Have I done myself out of work?!

Hypnosis can help you practice these techniques.  No matter how logical we are about things, it doesn’t really seem to make much of a difference so we need to access the subconscious mind and this happens with hypnosis.

Hypnosis is a concentrated relaxation (we are concentrating on the face being cool and pale) – (did you notice my phrasing).  Using various aids including visualisation techniques you can overcome the blushing.

When you hear the little voice instead your head telling you that you’re not good enough or who did you think you are – hypnotherapy and NLP can help you create a STOP sign in your mind so that you can silence the voice and change the thoughts have held you back.

You can change the thoughts and the little voice that holds you back – so make the change, make the appointment and email me at zita@zitastanley.com or call 086 1038892.  I am always happy to take your call and if distance is a problem, then online therapy using Skype is an alternative way of communicating.

Also email me if you would like a personalised CD/MP3 – you will need to fill out a questionnaire and I record an MP3/CD for you.

I’ll leave with a quote that you may have heard before:

“if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you always got”.

Ready to break the cycle – email me NOW zita@zitastanley.com

15 Upper Baggot Street easily accessible from city centre.

Only your subconscious mind knows what caused the problem in the first place and only your subconscious mind can make the change.  But it is not a magic pill or cure.  It is about empowering you.  Internal acceptance and validation help you to become the person you really want to be.  There is no dependant relationship with me.  Solution focused therapy is the method I use so that you are in therapy for the shortest time possible maximum 12 weeks.  That is because we start with your goal and work towards it whether it is to feel relaxed in social situations, relaxed being a non smoker, more confident and assertive – with hypnosis you can your own magic happen and it is a tool for life.

Call me to overcome any unwanted habit or to stop the cycle of anxiety which begets more anxiety so that you are going round and round.  Be free from your problem, you have the power within you and I can help you access it.

Call 086 1038892 now to book an appointment – 15 Upper  Baggot Street, Dublin 2 easily accessible from the city centre or Portlaoise, Co. Laois.

Also available for consultations using Skype.