Zita Stanley

You feel the colour in your face changing and the heat building, your initial response is probably along the lines of “stop blushing” or “don’t blush now”.  The more you try to quenc the heat and colour of the blush - the stronger and more intense it becomes.  Your voice weakens, you may even lose it, your throat is dry, hands wet and clammy.  How can you stop it?

Hypnosis will and can help you but before I explain how it is important to understand how your subconscious mind operates.

The subconscious mind does not recognise negative words like “stop” or “not” or “don’t”.  So let’s take the above sentence you might say to yourself “stop blushing” - what the subconscious mind hears is “blushing”.  So it goes through it’s inner dictionary (just a computer, it has programmes and files within it - but more on this another day).

In the dictionary it finds “blushing = red face, throat dry, hands clammy, nervousness in stomach (and whatever else you feel”.  Hey presto, your subconscious mind gives you what you asked!

So you need to re-programme, delete and make a new file: “my face is pale and cool, my hands are dry …. the opposite of the previous symptoms.  It does take practice and like any new skill, the more you practice the better you get.  You can apply this to any situation that previously made you feel uncomfortable.

Have I done myself out of work?!

Hypnosis can help you practice these techniques.  No matter how logical we are about things, it doesn’t really seem to make much of a difference so we need to access the subconscious mind and this happens with hypnosis.

Hypnosis is a concentrated relaxation (we are concentrating on the face being cool and pale) - (did you notice my phrasing).  Using various aids including visualisation techniques you can overcome the blushing.

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Have you ever noticed that your mood affects how you view things?  If you are feeling happy then everything has a positive slant, you can even see something positive from something negative.  If, however, you are in a low mood (not depressed) but not feeling on top of things, then the universe seems to put more and more obstacles in your way.  Thoughts like “typical, it always happens to me”, “serves me right for doing I was doing something right” will not improve your mood or lift your spirits.  Hypnotherapy helps you become aware of the power of your thoughts and your self thoughts.  If you don’t feel good about yourself, that comes across in your tone of voice, how you hold yourself.  For others, you can put on “a front”, the energy expended not being true to yourself is unreal and they end up feeling worn out and burnt physically and mentally.

When you hear the little voice instead your head telling you that you’re not good enough or who did you think you are - hypnotherapy and NLP can help you create a STOP sign in your mind so that you can silence the voice and change the thoughts have held you back.

You can change the thoughts and the little voice that holds you back - so make the change, make the appointment and email me at zita@zitastanley.com or call 086 1038892.  I am always happy to take your call and if distance is a problem, then online therapy using Skype is an alternative way of communicating.

Also email me if you would like a personalised CD/MP3 - you will need to fill out a questionnaire and I record an MP3/CD for you.

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With the past it is not the event itself that triggers the unwanted response/habit, it is the meaning we attribute to the event that gives it significance.  for example, when I think of my grandmother, I’m immediately transported to the smell of freshly baked bread and I’m in her kitchen, remembering the love and warmth of it - not the actual technique of making the bread!  When you can see the difference, that’s when we get change happening.

I’ll leave with a quote that I have used before:

“if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you always got”.

Ready to break the cycle - call me now on 086 1038892 or email zita@zitastanley.com

15 Upper Baggot Street easily accessible from city centre.

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You know that you can have insight and be logical about your problem but it doesn’t seem to make any difference to the blushing, anxiety, stress with attempts to stop smoking, lose weight etc.  Why?  Because we reason with the logical part of the mind, the left side, and where is the hurt that prompted the problem in the first place - it’s in your subconscious mind!  The only way to access your subconscious mind is with the use of hypnosis.  Hypnosis is a deep relaxation where you are fully aware but are just so relaxed you keep you eyes closed.  When in this relaxed state, the subconscious mind will offer up its secrets to the conscious level and in therapy, this can help you to overcome your problem - we find the cause and make it lose its effect!  For suggestion therapy, for stop smoking, wart removal or any of the more habit problems, when you are relaxed, suggestions are offered to the subconscious about new ways of looking at what used to be a problem for you.

Only your subconscious mind knows what caused the problem in the first place and only your subconscious mind can make the change.  But it is not a magic pill or cure.  It is about empowering you.  Internal acceptance and validation help you to become the person you really want to be.  There is no dependant relationship with me.  Solution focused therapy is the method I use so that you are in therapy for the shortest time possible maximum 12 weeks.  That is because we start with your goal and work towards it whether it is to feel relaxed in social situations, relaxed being a non smoker, more confident and assertive - with hypnosis you can your own magic happen and it is a tool for life.

Call me to overcome any unwanted habit or to stop the cycle of anxiety which begets more anxiety so that you are going round and round.  Be free from your problem, you have the power within you and I can help you access it.

Call 086 1038892 now to book an appointment - 15 Upper  Baggot Street, Dublin 2 easily accessible from the city centre or Portlaoise, Co. Laois.

Also available for consultations using Skype.

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Hypnotherapists do not “rescue” you from whatever problem you  have whether it is anxiety, smoking, nail biting etc.  Your hypnotherapist helps you  to discover or learn more resourceful ways of thinking, behaving, acting, responding so that you are empowered.  It is only with finding these resources from within will you ever truly overcome your problem.

So whatever emotional upset or habit you want to break, let me be your guide and call me on 086 1038892 now.

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Whatever change you want to make, you need some form of motivation or otherwise you would not change. Make change is never easy whether it is to stop smoking, lose weight, get focused on the job you want, motivation to set up your own business, gain confidence you will need some help. Hypnosis is such a focused tool at your disposal to give you laser focus on what you want. Hypnosis helps to concentrate your mind on that one change. Remember, you can only work on one change at a time (that’s why New Year Resolutions fail - we try too many changes and achieve nothing). Listening to a hypnotic CD/MP3 reminds your subconscious mind that you want to change. The theory is to make change permanent it takes 21 days for it to be fully absorbed by the subconscious mind.

If you are new to hypnosis and hypnotherapy, what has stopped you in the past from fulfilling your goals, was it the little voice in your head telling you that you “don’t deserve it”, “not good enough”, “no time”, “that’s not for you” - you get the drift. If you feel this is the obstacle because the voice gets so loud you must obey it then please consider hypnosis where we can access your subconscious and quieten the voice once and for all.

Do you really want to end your days regretting the things you didn’t do? You can be and/or change anything about yourself that you are not happy with - hypnosis helps you to feel confidence that you can achieve your goals. Sometimes it is easier to choose the safe option and continue to complain and feel sorry for yourself but if you want to change and get the feeling that you can change through hypnosis who knows what you can achieve.

Call me now to book an appointment on 086 1038892.

Baggot Street, Dublin 2.

Skype - email me if you would like to have a session using Skype - zita@zitastanley.com

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What plans do you have?  Do you imagine a life different to what you have now?  Do you follow through on  your plans?  Perhaps you never make plans, just drifting one day to the next, fed up that you don’t have all you want.

Planners:  When you make plans, it is important to write them.  Divide up all the areas of your life and make a list of what you would like to achieve.  Then go through the items on your list and write down what steps you need to take to get your goals - do you need advice, further education, a business plan, or just time.  Now time your goals for achievement and within that set a time table for each step.  Remember a goal should be just out of reach, not out of sight.

As you work through your goals, give yourself a treat with each step achieved - it’s an added incentive but don’t make it about food or alcohol.  Each step you take towards your goals will make you feel fantastic, the sense of empowerment is unbelieveable because you are making your goal in to reality.

Drifters:  Perhaps some of you don’t plan.  Things just happen and you go with the flow sometimes good and sometimes bad.  What makes you fearful of making plans?  Perhaps it’s a fear that you won’t be disappointed if you don’t achieve your goal.  If you are happy like this, good for you but if not, take some time to understand why you don’t set goals.

Hypnosis can help turn your hopes and dreams into reality by giving you focus and clarity of mind so that yes you do believe you can achieve your goals.

So go on, give me a call and lets set some goals.

Office:  Upper Baggot Street, Dublin 2.

Tel 086 1038892

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At the basics of hypnosis and hypnotherapy is to take what works for you and make it better so that the positive outweighs the negative, your thinking process is engaged towards solutions rather than possible problems, you are practical with regard to worrying, you manage stress adequately, concentrate on a pale face so you stop blushing, you act confidence physically and the internal confidence builds inside you.  What happens, one day comes and you haven’t had to think about the steps necessary to stop blushing, stop smoking etc.  Your mind automaticallly (and that is your subconscious mind) goes to positive thoughts.  We all have something that works for us deep down inside.  We have forgotten it.  You have over the years trained your mind to automatically think the worst and this causes anxiety.  Why does it cause anxiety?  Because it is not really who you are.  We should always strive to be better, to push ourselves out of the comfort zone, to see opportunity.  Take what you have that works at any level and build on that so that it thrives with good thoughts, perhaps training or practicing whatever it takes to get it better.

For self improvement in any area of your life, make the call now 086 1038892.  Baggot Street Dublin 2.  You have the power within you, let me show you how to unlock the secret to your subconscious mind!

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Immediate relief of symptoms - doesn’t that sound good. That’s what hypnotherapy offers you - imagine slight nervousness which turns to excitement, your face pale and cool, your hands dry, your voice strong, you are standing tall with shoulders back and in a relaxed position, your heart beating normally, your stomach at ease. What would that mean to you? Would the new confident you do a different job, or enjoy life a little bit more? Sometimes sufferers get (understandably so) avoidant with their behaviour that they forget to think what life would be life with blushing was under control and the associated anxiety would subside and whatever knock-on effects usually occurred were gone because there was nothing to trigger them. What if you could look, dare I say, it forward to some social activity. Of course this is possible. You didn’t always blush or feel anxious. Children and animals do not blush. Children are born with a natural fearlessness that we learn to over-ride as we get older! So you didn’t always feel this blushing or anxiety. But now it has overwhelmed your life (for some) or become a feature to hold you back. Hypnosis and hypnotherapy can help you to overturn these symptoms and you learn immediate relief. Doesn’t that sound wonderful. However, hypnosis is not a cure for blushing. Hypnosis (a concentrated relaxation) makes you more aware of the “set up” in the process of blushing and anxiety so you step in earlier to stop a full blushing and anxiety attack. Hypnotherapy is a short concentrated solution focused therapy - with concentration and solution on being whatever you need - more confidence, higher self esteem, learning how to deal with authority or whatever your trigger happens to be.

Make the change and make the call now 086 1038892 and you can experience the benefits of hypnosis and hypnotherapy on your blushing and anxiety.

Baggot Street, Dublin 2.

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Hypnotherapy is therapy carried out under hypnosis which essentially allows you to make change very quickly. The focus is the one change you wish to make in your life and a short, concise and focused therapy to help you build your self reliance. You gain the opportunity to harness the new and re-ignited skills within yourself in the future. It is about raising your self belief that you can be stop smoking, lose weight, get the great job you want, have a family, find a partner, overcome depression and anxiety, stop blushing or whatever change you wish to make.

You must want to make the change and believe that change for you is possible - you don’t have to believe in the process but be open minded. Expect positive change and look forward to positive change! Take a moment right now to write down goals for each area of your life - let’s face it, if you were content as you are now you wouldn’t be reading this. Write down the categories - lifestyle, health, family, relationships, financial, educational - whatever areas are in your life. Then list the goals or aspirations you have in each category. Now the most important is to timeline them so you see at a glance what the most pressing issue is for you. Hypnosis is great to help clarify our thoughts and organize the areas in your life.

Then set out the tasks you need to take to make each goal a reality - do you have to connect with someone, do you have do a course, do you have _________? Again set out a to-do list with these. Remember the day is not over until you can tick off everything on your life. Life being life, no doubt you may be thrown a curve ball but re-arrange the timeline - it’s not set in stone but don’t let things slide because of laziness.

For more help on focusing your mind or changing an unwanted habit call 086 1038892.

Office in Baggot Street, Dublin 2.

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