Zita Stanley

Have you noticed that your confidence can vary?  In your single days, you could do anything but then a partner and children come along and I often wonder if it is because we are so pulled in all directions that sometimes we can have a crisis of confidence.  Having children may make us feel more vulnerable, we worry about them and for them.  It is no longer just “about you”.

Single girls will have their own stresses.  Mothers and grandmothers wondering why you are still not married and perhaps you’ve heard your mother say “she’s fussy”.  What if you don’t want a man in your life - society makes judgement and God forbid you opt to be a single parent!  Despite living in the 21st century, we are expected to be a good wife and mother, take a back seat at work (well, men have to provide for families is the thought) and be everything to everyone.

Hypnosis can give you time for you.  The relaxation from it is a great way to unwind from the stresses and strains of life.  Play it as you drift off to sleep and wake up refreshed and invigorated.

Contact: zita@zitastanley.com

Tags: Anxiety, Blushing, Childbirth, Confidence, Depression, Fear of Flying, Fears & Phobias, Fertility, General, Guilt, Hypnosis for Childbirth, Motivation, Pain, Public Speaking, Self Esteem, Shyness, Stop Smoking, Stress, Wart, Weight Loss, Women's Issues by Zita
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Today is World Mental Health Day.

I believe that women are under immense stress in this century. 

You can have it all as long as the everything is what you want and not what your mother or society forces upon you.  When I qualified it was my wish to present a caring and nuturing environment for women to express what bothered them - things they may not tell their closest friends.  How to grieve for a lost baby, how to deal with not becoming pregnant, how to open yourself up to love, how to present yourself with confidence in a non threatening way etc.  Then there are the other issues, difficulty in relationships, difficulty with children from bedwetting to adolescence.  How to cope with the changes a newborn brings or how to find inner peace if these things do not come your way.  Depression is more common now among young women and I believe it is because we try to live up to the demands that society places upon us.  Hypnosis can give you an outlet.  Your subconscious mind records the hurts that you try to hide but they are still there.  Anger, guilt and resentment will eat away.  Releasing negative emotions with hypnosis can free you mentally and physically.  Have you ever used the expression “part of me” - well, there are different parts to you and if there is conflict then there is unease.  By accessing the subconscious mind with hypnosis, you can allow the “parts” to express themselves about why they hold onto whatever it is they hold on and then come to an agreement so that you find inner peace.

We only get one life and isn’t it worth getting peace of mind.

Tags: Anxiety, Blushing, Childbirth, Confidence, Depression, Fear of Flying, Fears & Phobias, Fertility, General, Guilt, Motivation, Public Speaking, Self Esteem, Shyness, Stop Smoking, Stress, Wart, Weight Loss, Women's Issues by Zita
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It was with interest I read an article in 11th August 2008 Irish Independent Health and Living Supplement about fertility coaching. Have you noticed that when trying to get pregnant or having suffered miscarriage, all you see and hear are babies and pregnant women. It is like the universe has conspired to rub your face in something you do not have. No doubt mothers will be shouting at children or you see very young looking pregnant girls and you think “why them”, “they don’t even want their children”. It gets harder and harder to see anything else - waiting each month and the disappointment when you know you are not pregnant. It is no wonder you are stressed. Mental and physical stress wears out you and imagine what this pressure does to your ovaries - it’s like the tighten up because the rest of you is tightly wound up. Even the very act of baby making is pressure - am I pregnant now? legs up to help the sperm travel? Your personality changes, there is no joy because you are consumed with becoming pregnant or the lack of pregnancy and yet there is nothing wrong with you or your partner.

With hypnosis, you can learn to relax mentally and physically. Let the mental tiredness disappear, so that you start to put things in perspective. Hypnosis can help you to visualise a  baby in your future so that there is hope that is not tainted with fear of failure.  Feeling the contentment without sadness is a stepping stone to relaxing your reproductive system.

Another session will be visualizing your egg accepting your partner’s sperm and the union making a baby.

As not every couple will become parents, an important question to ask yourself is “will you both be content and happy in a family of just 2″.  If planning IVF, the stress alone needs a very strong relationship.

Let hypnosis help you to unwind and ease your mind from the stress of not being pregnant.

Tags: Anxiety, Fertility, Women's Issues by Zita
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