Zita Stanley

You feel the colour in your face changing and the heat building, your initial response is probably along the lines of “stop blushing” or “don’t blush now”.  The more you try to quenc the heat and colour of the blush - the stronger and more intense it becomes.  Your voice weakens, you may even lose it, your throat is dry, hands wet and clammy.  How can you stop it?

Hypnosis will and can help you but before I explain how it is important to understand how your subconscious mind operates.

The subconscious mind does not recognise negative words like “stop” or “not” or “don’t”.  So let’s take the above sentence you might say to yourself “stop blushing” - what the subconscious mind hears is “blushing”.  So it goes through it’s inner dictionary (just a computer, it has programmes and files within it - but more on this another day).

In the dictionary it finds “blushing = red face, throat dry, hands clammy, nervousness in stomach (and whatever else you feel”.  Hey presto, your subconscious mind gives you what you asked!

So you need to re-programme, delete and make a new file: “my face is pale and cool, my hands are dry …. the opposite of the previous symptoms.  It does take practice and like any new skill, the more you practice the better you get.  You can apply this to any situation that previously made you feel uncomfortable.

Have I done myself out of work?!

Hypnosis can help you practice these techniques.  No matter how logical we are about things, it doesn’t really seem to make much of a difference so we need to access the subconscious mind and this happens with hypnosis.

Hypnosis is a concentrated relaxation (we are concentrating on the face being cool and pale) - (did you notice my phrasing).  Using various aids including visualisation techniques you can overcome the blushing.

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With the past it is not the event itself that triggers the unwanted response/habit, it is the meaning we attribute to the event that gives it significance.  for example, when I think of my grandmother, I’m immediately transported to the smell of freshly baked bread and I’m in her kitchen, remembering the love and warmth of it - not the actual technique of making the bread!  When you can see the difference, that’s when we get change happening.

I’ll leave with a quote that I have used before:

“if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you always got”.

Ready to break the cycle - call me now on 086 1038892 or email zita@zitastanley.com

15 Upper Baggot Street easily accessible from city centre.

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You know that you can have insight and be logical about your problem but it doesn’t seem to make any difference to the blushing, anxiety, stress with attempts to stop smoking, lose weight etc.  Why?  Because we reason with the logical part of the mind, the left side, and where is the hurt that prompted the problem in the first place - it’s in your subconscious mind!  The only way to access your subconscious mind is with the use of hypnosis.  Hypnosis is a deep relaxation where you are fully aware but are just so relaxed you keep you eyes closed.  When in this relaxed state, the subconscious mind will offer up its secrets to the conscious level and in therapy, this can help you to overcome your problem - we find the cause and make it lose its effect!  For suggestion therapy, for stop smoking, wart removal or any of the more habit problems, when you are relaxed, suggestions are offered to the subconscious about new ways of looking at what used to be a problem for you.

Only your subconscious mind knows what caused the problem in the first place and only your subconscious mind can make the change.  But it is not a magic pill or cure.  It is about empowering you.  Internal acceptance and validation help you to become the person you really want to be.  There is no dependant relationship with me.  Solution focused therapy is the method I use so that you are in therapy for the shortest time possible maximum 12 weeks.  That is because we start with your goal and work towards it whether it is to feel relaxed in social situations, relaxed being a non smoker, more confident and assertive - with hypnosis you can your own magic happen and it is a tool for life.

Call me to overcome any unwanted habit or to stop the cycle of anxiety which begets more anxiety so that you are going round and round.  Be free from your problem, you have the power within you and I can help you access it.

Call 086 1038892 now to book an appointment - 15 Upper  Baggot Street, Dublin 2 easily accessible from the city centre or Portlaoise, Co. Laois.

Also available for consultations using Skype.

Tags: Anxiety, Blushing, Confidence, Depression, Fear of Flying, Fears & Phobias, General, Guilt, Motivation, Public Speaking, Self Esteem, Shyness, Stop Smoking, Stress, Wart, Weight Loss by Zita
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Hypnotherapists do not “rescue” you from whatever problem you  have whether it is anxiety, smoking, nail biting etc.  Your hypnotherapist helps you  to discover or learn more resourceful ways of thinking, behaving, acting, responding so that you are empowered.  It is only with finding these resources from within will you ever truly overcome your problem.

So whatever emotional upset or habit you want to break, let me be your guide and call me on 086 1038892 now.

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When do you get anxious about flying?
Does talk of booking a flight start to nauseate you or is it when you start to pack?
Everyone is different when it comes to how anxious they are and when these symptoms begin.
If you have never flown before then of course there is a natural apprehension about flying -it’s an unnatural thing to do.  So, your subconscious mind wants to keep you safe and secure but remember your subconscious has no logic, no understanding so no amount of making your fear or anxiety logical can help in the long-term, you must go to the subconscious and teach/re-programme it, so that the anxiety and nervousness with regard to flying fears can be alleviated.  What hypnosis does is help you to relax, so that you feel that you can change and feel different rather than letting a fear of flying control you.  When you think of flying, you probably feel the flutter in your tummy or perhaps your heart beats a little faster… setting in motion the chain of events and you didn’t even go near a plane!  With hypnosis we disrupt the neuro-physiological pattern so that you can think of flying, planes, booking a flight etc and you are calm rather the anxiety and nervousness which you have already “trained” yourself to feel.

Let hypnosis help you control and overcome your fear of flying so that you enjoy your holiday/business trip and may I say, enjoy rather than endure your flight.

Call me now to fly without fear - 086 1038892.

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Whatever change you want to make, you need some form of motivation or otherwise you would not change. Make change is never easy whether it is to stop smoking, lose weight, get focused on the job you want, motivation to set up your own business, gain confidence you will need some help. Hypnosis is such a focused tool at your disposal to give you laser focus on what you want. Hypnosis helps to concentrate your mind on that one change. Remember, you can only work on one change at a time (that’s why New Year Resolutions fail - we try too many changes and achieve nothing). Listening to a hypnotic CD/MP3 reminds your subconscious mind that you want to change. The theory is to make change permanent it takes 21 days for it to be fully absorbed by the subconscious mind.

If you are new to hypnosis and hypnotherapy, what has stopped you in the past from fulfilling your goals, was it the little voice in your head telling you that you “don’t deserve it”, “not good enough”, “no time”, “that’s not for you” - you get the drift. If you feel this is the obstacle because the voice gets so loud you must obey it then please consider hypnosis where we can access your subconscious and quieten the voice once and for all.

Do you really want to end your days regretting the things you didn’t do? You can be and/or change anything about yourself that you are not happy with - hypnosis helps you to feel confidence that you can achieve your goals. Sometimes it is easier to choose the safe option and continue to complain and feel sorry for yourself but if you want to change and get the feeling that you can change through hypnosis who knows what you can achieve.

Call me now to book an appointment on 086 1038892.

Baggot Street, Dublin 2.

Skype - email me if you would like to have a session using Skype - zita@zitastanley.com

Tags: Anxiety, Blushing, Confidence, Depression, Fear of Flying, Fears & Phobias, General, Guilt, Motivation, Public Speaking, Self Esteem, Shyness, Stop Smoking, Stress, Weight Loss, Women's Issues by Zita
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What plans do you have?  Do you imagine a life different to what you have now?  Do you follow through on  your plans?  Perhaps you never make plans, just drifting one day to the next, fed up that you don’t have all you want.

Planners:  When you make plans, it is important to write them.  Divide up all the areas of your life and make a list of what you would like to achieve.  Then go through the items on your list and write down what steps you need to take to get your goals - do you need advice, further education, a business plan, or just time.  Now time your goals for achievement and within that set a time table for each step.  Remember a goal should be just out of reach, not out of sight.

As you work through your goals, give yourself a treat with each step achieved - it’s an added incentive but don’t make it about food or alcohol.  Each step you take towards your goals will make you feel fantastic, the sense of empowerment is unbelieveable because you are making your goal in to reality.

Drifters:  Perhaps some of you don’t plan.  Things just happen and you go with the flow sometimes good and sometimes bad.  What makes you fearful of making plans?  Perhaps it’s a fear that you won’t be disappointed if you don’t achieve your goal.  If you are happy like this, good for you but if not, take some time to understand why you don’t set goals.

Hypnosis can help turn your hopes and dreams into reality by giving you focus and clarity of mind so that yes you do believe you can achieve your goals.

So go on, give me a call and lets set some goals.

Office:  Upper Baggot Street, Dublin 2.

Tel 086 1038892

Tags: Confidence, Fear of Flying, General, Motivation by Zita
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All focus (or so it seems) is on you - you feel your face going red, your heart beating as though it is about to jump out your chest (or your mouth), sweating palms, you begin to dissociate, your mouth becomes dry or stops working and you feel as though you are slurring your words.  Does this seem familiar?  You are not alone.  Every dealing with more than one person is an ordeal you anticipate.

What begins to happen is that you anticipate the above happening and you set the image in your mind of being uncomfortable and feeling very nervous and anxiety and hey presto, that is exactly what happens.  And so the vicious circle continues….

Your mind does not know the difference between what is real or what is imagined - you set the standard and it follows suit - after all, it is only doing what you expect.

What would life be like for you if you could reverse the symptoms and actually only feel normal anticipation (say for giving a presentation)? What would that mean to you? Is it something you have ever thought about? We will all say I “don’t want….” but the subconscious does not recognise the word “not” so in effect you are saying “I want to feel anxious” without realising it!

So, I want you to make a list to answer the above questions and each answer is to start with “I want to feel…I want to be….” with a positive statement. Hypnosis helps by accessing the subconscious and using relaxation and visualisation techniques to overcome each symptom and learn to re-wind it as it were. Sometimes we can be so caught up in the negative that we do not know how to be positive and therefore put up obstacles.

Hypnosis can help re-enforce the behavioural changes necessary to overcome anxiety whatever the type of anxiety you suffer from. No matter how logically you work out your anxiety it is not going to change unless you access your powerhouse of emotion – the subconscious mind. Therapy is required for moderate to severe cases to uncover the precipitating event and gain closure. For presentation confidence, suggestion therapy will usually be sufficient (i.e. just dealing with the symptoms). With hypnosis we access the subconscious mind and reprogramme the old way of behaving so that the new ways are acceptable. In this way, we create a positive scenario. This isn’t easy as the sufferer you are used to behaving a certain way. What will your life be like with your new found relaxed way of dealing with situations that used to previously caused you so much pain both mentally and physically? How will people react to you now? Creating change is never easy but it will be worth it – do you really want to live you life in fear/panic? Do you want this anxiety to make you socially isolated? I don’t think so. But there is no magic cure and it takes time and effort on your part. Are you ready to make the change from panic to relaxation?

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The feelings of panic are familiar to you. When do they start? When you book a flight, pack, get to the airport, board the plane? Everyone is different and the feelings of anxiety will occur at different stages but what is common is the out of control feelings, the nausea, the sweaty palms, the palpitations, the anxiety - all occur to varying degrees. Some of you, no doubt, will have used alcohol, drugs (prescription and/or recreational) to cure the problem but nothing helps. In fact, you may have to deal with the feelings of a hang-over, disorientation and general unwellness. What is happening is that you recognise there is a problem and now perhaps the things you used to self medicate begins earlier and earlies and so you are enjoying less and less of your holidays. Holidays can be stressful enough (delayed flights, perhaps tired children etc) without having the added anxiety of a fear of flying.

Hypnosis helps by showing you how to control the panic attack/anxiety/unease so that you “learn” to become more relaxed when flying. Loss of control is a common thread - if you are on a boat and it starts to sink, you can swim to safety (whether or not you can swim is irrelevant to your subconscious mind!) but what happens with flying? Part of the hypnotic process is to allay your fears and to relinquish the part of you that likes to be in control so that you learn to trust the engineers, pilots etc who work behind the scenes to ensure your safety. Pilots undergo rigourous checks every 6 months to ensure they ability to pilot a plane. There are aviation rules to ensure your safety.

While your subconscious mind accepts that there are rules for your safety, then we turn to your inner turmoil - reversing the feelings. You will experience the feelings of panic/anxiety/unease that you normall feel - this is necessary to prove to yourself that hey, I can manage and reverse these feelings. It is a process and you will find the each flight gets a little bit easier for you so that you can, dare I say it, look forward to flying!

Why suffer and ruin holidays or work travel for yourself? Hypnosis is a marvellous tool and can help you to overcome the feelings that you so that you regain control of you.

Your emotions are not who you are, they are a component that you control so take control of your flying anxiety (hypnosis makes it easier) and make flying a pleasure for you. As mentioned, you cannot do this for others you have to want to make the change.

Good luck and here’s to overcoming your fear of flying with hypnosis and relaxed flying. Isn’t that worth wanting?

Call me now on 086 1038892.

Baggot Street and Portlaoise, Co. Laois. Coming soon hypnotherapy via skype - so from the comfort of your own home you can overcome whatever issues that are upsetting your life.

Tags: Anxiety, Confidence, Fear of Flying, General, Introduction by Zita
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At the basics of hypnosis and hypnotherapy is to take what works for you and make it better so that the positive outweighs the negative, your thinking process is engaged towards solutions rather than possible problems, you are practical with regard to worrying, you manage stress adequately, concentrate on a pale face so you stop blushing, you act confidence physically and the internal confidence builds inside you.  What happens, one day comes and you haven’t had to think about the steps necessary to stop blushing, stop smoking etc.  Your mind automaticallly (and that is your subconscious mind) goes to positive thoughts.  We all have something that works for us deep down inside.  We have forgotten it.  You have over the years trained your mind to automatically think the worst and this causes anxiety.  Why does it cause anxiety?  Because it is not really who you are.  We should always strive to be better, to push ourselves out of the comfort zone, to see opportunity.  Take what you have that works at any level and build on that so that it thrives with good thoughts, perhaps training or practicing whatever it takes to get it better.

For self improvement in any area of your life, make the call now 086 1038892.  Baggot Street Dublin 2.  You have the power within you, let me show you how to unlock the secret to your subconscious mind!

Tags: Anxiety, Blushing, Childbirth, Confidence, Depression, Fear of Flying, Fears & Phobias, General, Guilt, Hypnosis for Childbirth, Introduction, Motivation, Pain, Public Speaking, Publications & TV, Self Esteem, Shyness, Stress, Wart, Weight Loss, Women's Issues by Zita
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