Zita Stanley

You feel the colour in your face changing and the heat building, your initial response is probably along the lines of “stop blushing” or “don’t blush now”.  The more you try to quenc the heat and colour of the blush - the stronger and more intense it becomes.  Your voice weakens, you may even lose it, your throat is dry, hands wet and clammy.  How can you stop it?

Hypnosis will and can help you but before I explain how it is important to understand how your subconscious mind operates.

The subconscious mind does not recognise negative words like “stop” or “not” or “don’t”.  So let’s take the above sentence you might say to yourself “stop blushing” - what the subconscious mind hears is “blushing”.  So it goes through it’s inner dictionary (just a computer, it has programmes and files within it - but more on this another day).

In the dictionary it finds “blushing = red face, throat dry, hands clammy, nervousness in stomach (and whatever else you feel”.  Hey presto, your subconscious mind gives you what you asked!

So you need to re-programme, delete and make a new file: “my face is pale and cool, my hands are dry …. the opposite of the previous symptoms.  It does take practice and like any new skill, the more you practice the better you get.  You can apply this to any situation that previously made you feel uncomfortable.

Have I done myself out of work?!

Hypnosis can help you practice these techniques.  No matter how logical we are about things, it doesn’t really seem to make much of a difference so we need to access the subconscious mind and this happens with hypnosis.

Hypnosis is a concentrated relaxation (we are concentrating on the face being cool and pale) - (did you notice my phrasing).  Using various aids including visualisation techniques you can overcome the blushing.

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When you know what you want to achieve whether it’s a way of behaving, thinking we can take the steps necessary in order to achieve this.  Whether it is the emotional release that comes with psychotherapy under hypnosis and developing new more resourceful habits, you can make any change you want but you have to be committed to making the change and that you are doing it for you.

Remember if you are pessimistic about the future, then negativity is all that you will see but if you feel, see joy in the future then that is what is in store for you.  It’s like the saying:  if you think you or you think you can’t, you’re right.  Life is a self fulfilling prophesy.

To become more resourceful, call me on 086 1038892 or email zita@zitastanley.com

15 Upper Baggot Street, Dublin 2.

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With the past it is not the event itself that triggers the unwanted response/habit, it is the meaning we attribute to the event that gives it significance.  for example, when I think of my grandmother, I’m immediately transported to the smell of freshly baked bread and I’m in her kitchen, remembering the love and warmth of it - not the actual technique of making the bread!  When you can see the difference, that’s when we get change happening.

I’ll leave with a quote that I have used before:

“if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you always got”.

Ready to break the cycle - call me now on 086 1038892 or email zita@zitastanley.com

15 Upper Baggot Street easily accessible from city centre.

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You know that you can have insight and be logical about your problem but it doesn’t seem to make any difference to the blushing, anxiety, stress with attempts to stop smoking, lose weight etc.  Why?  Because we reason with the logical part of the mind, the left side, and where is the hurt that prompted the problem in the first place - it’s in your subconscious mind!  The only way to access your subconscious mind is with the use of hypnosis.  Hypnosis is a deep relaxation where you are fully aware but are just so relaxed you keep you eyes closed.  When in this relaxed state, the subconscious mind will offer up its secrets to the conscious level and in therapy, this can help you to overcome your problem - we find the cause and make it lose its effect!  For suggestion therapy, for stop smoking, wart removal or any of the more habit problems, when you are relaxed, suggestions are offered to the subconscious about new ways of looking at what used to be a problem for you.

Only your subconscious mind knows what caused the problem in the first place and only your subconscious mind can make the change.  But it is not a magic pill or cure.  It is about empowering you.  Internal acceptance and validation help you to become the person you really want to be.  There is no dependant relationship with me.  Solution focused therapy is the method I use so that you are in therapy for the shortest time possible maximum 12 weeks.  That is because we start with your goal and work towards it whether it is to feel relaxed in social situations, relaxed being a non smoker, more confident and assertive - with hypnosis you can your own magic happen and it is a tool for life.

Call me to overcome any unwanted habit or to stop the cycle of anxiety which begets more anxiety so that you are going round and round.  Be free from your problem, you have the power within you and I can help you access it.

Call 086 1038892 now to book an appointment - 15 Upper  Baggot Street, Dublin 2 easily accessible from the city centre or Portlaoise, Co. Laois.

Also available for consultations using Skype.

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Whatever change you want to make, you need some form of motivation or otherwise you would not change. Make change is never easy whether it is to stop smoking, lose weight, get focused on the job you want, motivation to set up your own business, gain confidence you will need some help. Hypnosis is such a focused tool at your disposal to give you laser focus on what you want. Hypnosis helps to concentrate your mind on that one change. Remember, you can only work on one change at a time (that’s why New Year Resolutions fail - we try too many changes and achieve nothing). Listening to a hypnotic CD/MP3 reminds your subconscious mind that you want to change. The theory is to make change permanent it takes 21 days for it to be fully absorbed by the subconscious mind.

If you are new to hypnosis and hypnotherapy, what has stopped you in the past from fulfilling your goals, was it the little voice in your head telling you that you “don’t deserve it”, “not good enough”, “no time”, “that’s not for you” - you get the drift. If you feel this is the obstacle because the voice gets so loud you must obey it then please consider hypnosis where we can access your subconscious and quieten the voice once and for all.

Do you really want to end your days regretting the things you didn’t do? You can be and/or change anything about yourself that you are not happy with - hypnosis helps you to feel confidence that you can achieve your goals. Sometimes it is easier to choose the safe option and continue to complain and feel sorry for yourself but if you want to change and get the feeling that you can change through hypnosis who knows what you can achieve.

Call me now to book an appointment on 086 1038892.

Baggot Street, Dublin 2.

Skype - email me if you would like to have a session using Skype - zita@zitastanley.com

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All focus (or so it seems) is on you - you feel your face going red, your heart beating as though it is about to jump out your chest (or your mouth), sweating palms, you begin to dissociate, your mouth becomes dry or stops working and you feel as though you are slurring your words.  Does this seem familiar?  You are not alone.  Every dealing with more than one person is an ordeal you anticipate.

What begins to happen is that you anticipate the above happening and you set the image in your mind of being uncomfortable and feeling very nervous and anxiety and hey presto, that is exactly what happens.  And so the vicious circle continues….

Your mind does not know the difference between what is real or what is imagined - you set the standard and it follows suit - after all, it is only doing what you expect.

What would life be like for you if you could reverse the symptoms and actually only feel normal anticipation (say for giving a presentation)? What would that mean to you? Is it something you have ever thought about? We will all say I “don’t want….” but the subconscious does not recognise the word “not” so in effect you are saying “I want to feel anxious” without realising it!

So, I want you to make a list to answer the above questions and each answer is to start with “I want to feel…I want to be….” with a positive statement. Hypnosis helps by accessing the subconscious and using relaxation and visualisation techniques to overcome each symptom and learn to re-wind it as it were. Sometimes we can be so caught up in the negative that we do not know how to be positive and therefore put up obstacles.

Hypnosis can help re-enforce the behavioural changes necessary to overcome anxiety whatever the type of anxiety you suffer from. No matter how logically you work out your anxiety it is not going to change unless you access your powerhouse of emotion – the subconscious mind. Therapy is required for moderate to severe cases to uncover the precipitating event and gain closure. For presentation confidence, suggestion therapy will usually be sufficient (i.e. just dealing with the symptoms). With hypnosis we access the subconscious mind and reprogramme the old way of behaving so that the new ways are acceptable. In this way, we create a positive scenario. This isn’t easy as the sufferer you are used to behaving a certain way. What will your life be like with your new found relaxed way of dealing with situations that used to previously caused you so much pain both mentally and physically? How will people react to you now? Creating change is never easy but it will be worth it – do you really want to live you life in fear/panic? Do you want this anxiety to make you socially isolated? I don’t think so. But there is no magic cure and it takes time and effort on your part. Are you ready to make the change from panic to relaxation?

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At the basics of hypnosis and hypnotherapy is to take what works for you and make it better so that the positive outweighs the negative, your thinking process is engaged towards solutions rather than possible problems, you are practical with regard to worrying, you manage stress adequately, concentrate on a pale face so you stop blushing, you act confidence physically and the internal confidence builds inside you.  What happens, one day comes and you haven’t had to think about the steps necessary to stop blushing, stop smoking etc.  Your mind automaticallly (and that is your subconscious mind) goes to positive thoughts.  We all have something that works for us deep down inside.  We have forgotten it.  You have over the years trained your mind to automatically think the worst and this causes anxiety.  Why does it cause anxiety?  Because it is not really who you are.  We should always strive to be better, to push ourselves out of the comfort zone, to see opportunity.  Take what you have that works at any level and build on that so that it thrives with good thoughts, perhaps training or practicing whatever it takes to get it better.

For self improvement in any area of your life, make the call now 086 1038892.  Baggot Street Dublin 2.  You have the power within you, let me show you how to unlock the secret to your subconscious mind!

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Today I’m going to focus on the milder type blushing.  Blushing at work or avoiding situations where the focus will be on you at work rather the blushing associated with social anxiety.

This milder form of blushing responds very well to what is termed suggestion therapy whereby we focus on the symptoms and reverse them.  No therapy is involved.  In my practice I found that adding the dimension of boosting confidence can achieve very good results indeed.  You may be confident and lively with your family and friends but at work it is the opposite.  You hear your name called at work and you automatically assume you have done something wrong and then blushing begins as a physical reminder to everyone of how you are feeling.  Or perhaps you fine at work until you have to present, until you have to be under scrutiny.  What happens to you, do you avoid presentations altogether or spend all the time you have setting up the image of a big red face, getting tongue-tied, dry mouth, sweaty palms and whatever else you want to add.  Remember, as you set this scenario in your head, your subconscious is eager to please you and sets this very unwanted images in train so that you go red, have no train of thought etc.  So what to do, there are two big steps to take.

1.  Remember your subconscious mind does not recognise the word “not” or “no” so when you say to yourself “stop blushing”, your subconscious mind flicks through its internal dictionary, ignores “stop” and presents you with blushing - well after all you did ask for blushing”.  So we must change your thoughts to “my face is pale and cool” to counter the redness and heat.  So now you say “my face is pale and cool” and your subconscious mind flicks through its dictionary for what pale and cool mean and hey presto, your face is pale and cool.  Playing your hypnotic CD, which I make at your session specific to your needs, for 3 weeks helps to re-enforce these new suggestions.

2. Confidence:  Does a confident person blush?  No.  So now we must reduce the feelings of anxiety, you know that butterfly feeling in your tummy and send it to the excitement road so that you are animated and dare I say it, enjoying your performance.  Again, playing your CD helps to re-enforce the suggestions which are for your benefit and remind your subconscious of what confidence means to you.

Two to three sessions are all that is usually required and we go through visualization techniques and other things to help build your armory so that you go into battle fully prepared.

To stop blushing and boost confidence with hypnosis call me on 086 1038892.  Baggot Street, Dublin 2.

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Immediate relief of symptoms - doesn’t that sound good. That’s what hypnotherapy offers you - imagine slight nervousness which turns to excitement, your face pale and cool, your hands dry, your voice strong, you are standing tall with shoulders back and in a relaxed position, your heart beating normally, your stomach at ease. What would that mean to you? Would the new confident you do a different job, or enjoy life a little bit more? Sometimes sufferers get (understandably so) avoidant with their behaviour that they forget to think what life would be life with blushing was under control and the associated anxiety would subside and whatever knock-on effects usually occurred were gone because there was nothing to trigger them. What if you could look, dare I say, it forward to some social activity. Of course this is possible. You didn’t always blush or feel anxious. Children and animals do not blush. Children are born with a natural fearlessness that we learn to over-ride as we get older! So you didn’t always feel this blushing or anxiety. But now it has overwhelmed your life (for some) or become a feature to hold you back. Hypnosis and hypnotherapy can help you to overturn these symptoms and you learn immediate relief. Doesn’t that sound wonderful. However, hypnosis is not a cure for blushing. Hypnosis (a concentrated relaxation) makes you more aware of the “set up” in the process of blushing and anxiety so you step in earlier to stop a full blushing and anxiety attack. Hypnotherapy is a short concentrated solution focused therapy - with concentration and solution on being whatever you need - more confidence, higher self esteem, learning how to deal with authority or whatever your trigger happens to be.

Make the change and make the call now 086 1038892 and you can experience the benefits of hypnosis and hypnotherapy on your blushing and anxiety.

Baggot Street, Dublin 2.

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Hypnotherapy is therapy carried out under hypnosis which essentially allows you to make change very quickly. The focus is the one change you wish to make in your life and a short, concise and focused therapy to help you build your self reliance. You gain the opportunity to harness the new and re-ignited skills within yourself in the future. It is about raising your self belief that you can be stop smoking, lose weight, get the great job you want, have a family, find a partner, overcome depression and anxiety, stop blushing or whatever change you wish to make.

You must want to make the change and believe that change for you is possible - you don’t have to believe in the process but be open minded. Expect positive change and look forward to positive change! Take a moment right now to write down goals for each area of your life - let’s face it, if you were content as you are now you wouldn’t be reading this. Write down the categories - lifestyle, health, family, relationships, financial, educational - whatever areas are in your life. Then list the goals or aspirations you have in each category. Now the most important is to timeline them so you see at a glance what the most pressing issue is for you. Hypnosis is great to help clarify our thoughts and organize the areas in your life.

Then set out the tasks you need to take to make each goal a reality - do you have to connect with someone, do you have do a course, do you have _________? Again set out a to-do list with these. Remember the day is not over until you can tick off everything on your life. Life being life, no doubt you may be thrown a curve ball but re-arrange the timeline - it’s not set in stone but don’t let things slide because of laziness.

For more help on focusing your mind or changing an unwanted habit call 086 1038892.

Office in Baggot Street, Dublin 2.

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