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Anger Management for Women

Zita — Sat, 14 May 2011 11:56:34 +0000

Do you find that you “name” your anger – upset, frustration, worry? We can associate anger issues with men, we can see the aggression and although women are capable of being physically aggressive too, it seems that we focus this rage inward. Anger is a valid emotion and failing to express it or find a release for it only causes problems in the long run. Is your anger causing a stress inside you? If you feel you are being taken advantage of because you do not say anything – what is the overall feeling for you? It is going to be anger at yourself for not saying “no” to the extra work, “no” to working fulltime and managing the household. Anger management for women is about being able to express yourself so that you are not only listened to but heard. And doing this in a way that makes you feel empowered rather than exhausted. It is about owning the piece of ground that you stand on.

If feelings of anger, frustration and over compensation are affecting you, give me email me at zita@zitastanley.com or call me to arrange an appointment in Limerick, Portlaoise or Dublin.

Anger: How to change your reaction

Zita — Sun, 06 Jun 2010 08:00:00 +0000

Most of my anger management clients are men and one of the prevailing issues for them is the fear of alienating children and their significant other. Breaking and smashing of inanimate objects but then seeing fear in your child’s eyes and in your wife’s body language produces an unimaginable guilt feeling but yet you find this pattern repeating itself, knowing the devastation you are causing yourself and your family.

There is a way to clear your mind, halt the anger inside you and learning new behavioural patterns to assert yourself. Anger is the result of some other feeling - you feel threatened in some way. If your relationship is on the rocks, do you think a show of power will keep it safe?

I remember one of my clients was on the brink of suicide because he was so tired emotionally and physically of not being able to express himself at work and he took his frustration out on his wife and kids. He saw the body language of fear in his family. He knew his wife watched him to check what mood he was in and more often than not, she had the children in bed before he came home. Within the first week of seeing me, his sleep had settled, his IBS had calmed down and I have given him tools so that on his drive home, it was his time to unwind and reframed going home as enjoyment. One issue he had was the volume of his children (when they were still up) when he got home and it was reframing that to the reality that it was – children’s excitement at seeing their daddy – not irritating noise! Within 4 weeks, he had become more assertive at work rather than let issues fester, he dealt with them as they arose.

This man had gone from being suicidal to a calmer, loving man in the space of 4 weeks with immediate changes from session 1. You don’t have to suffer or feel weak for seeking help. My job is to help you access your inner resources, discover how to work your own mind and body to your benefit so that you can enjoy new ways of being. But you must need to want to change. Don’t come to me if you think your partner will accept you because you said you were seeing someone for help – that doesn’t work. You have to decide to you want to embrace change for yourself first and foremost and this will ripple to those around you.

For evening appointments in Upper Baggot Street, call me on 086 1038892 or email zita@zitastanley.com.

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Anger and hypnotherapy

Zita — Tue, 27 Apr 2010 23:20:30 +0000

What do you want to about your anger – do you want to manage it, do you want to understand why you are angry or are you afraid that you cannot do anything about? If you have a plan of how you want things to be for you at home, at work then let hypnotherapy help you to achieve your goal. Perhaps you don’t even really know where your anger comes from, just that it is there, seething, always present. You can take back your power over you and quell, extinguish, discover that your angry is actually a secondary emotion. We are rarely angry at those we lash out – they are just the receivers. Developing assertiveness will help you to be able to say what is on your mind without getting unduly emotional, the ability to express yourself clearly and succinctly. This is what gives you real power. With hypnosis the sense of inner peace and calmness will ease symptoms of IBS, knots in the stomach, stress/tension headaches and most importantly, release the body. If you walk around with your muscles tense, is your mind relaxed? No. Relaxed body = relaxed mind. Let hypnosis do that for you. You have everything to gain by calling me on 086 1038892 or emailing zita@zitastanley.com. Baggot Street Dublin only.

If you are unable to attend me in person, please visit my colleagues at Hypnosis Downloads.

Controlling and Stopping Anger Outbursts

Zita — Sun, 18 Apr 2010 09:01:08 +0000

Hypnotherapy allows you to transform your strongest emotion from destructive patterns into a positive, more appropriate form. You know yourself that when anger is physical or vocal it is rarely about the person or object receiving it. If your anger has been the dominant emotion for quite sometime, you may feel you will never be free. Your guilt compounds the anger feelings after your outbursts and you promise yourself that you will never do/say/act this way again. But unless you find out why you rise so quickly to anger and find other ways to manage your anger, you are forcing yourself to repeat your patterns. Hypnosis and hypnotherapy are the quickest ways to learn to control what it is going on inside of you. All of my clients have reported major changes between the first 2 sessions. All are amazed at the difference, very quickly to the behaviours. This sense of hope turns a light on inside them. They are able to distance (mentally if not physically) themselves from situations that previously would have caused them anger outbursts. They all report the position of power now they are not burdened with anger. They can still feel annoyed but the difference is the ability to let it go and move on. If anger is controlling you, regain your control and call me on 086 1038892 or email zita@zitastanley.com. Upper Baggot Street only.

If you are unable to attend me in person, please visit my colleagues at Hypnosis Downloads.

Anger Management: 1 to 1 sessions in Dublin

Zita — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 13:49:51 +0000

Anger management is more than just learning how to control the rage that is it inside you, it is about understanding why you are angry. Anger is a secondary emotion and that thing that causes our anger to explode is rarely the true object of our anger. When we feel threatened in any way, emotionally, physically, intellectually, we adapt to the primal state of attack being the best form of defense. You know yourself, the guilt that follows any anger outburst especially if directed at innocents. NLP and hypnosis are useful tools to help you to control the anger immediately and develop more assertive ways of dealing with, for example, people you find difficult and feel threatened by. Remember your anger state is not a positive even if you are defending yourself. You can learn to lose that “wound up” feeling inside so that you approach all situations from a position of power, being calm and in control. You will be amazed at how quickly you will notice the benefits, even after the first session. Why suffer, do you really want to spend the rest of your life going from anger to guilt? Email me at zita@zitastanley.com. Appointments in Dublin. Or call Declan on 087 2420699.

Anger: What Hypnosis and NLP Can Do.

Zita — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 17:39:09 +0000

Hypnosis induces a state of inner calm and wellbeing. When a heightened state of emotion like rage, we lose our ability to reason. How many times have noticed when angry that you ability to see things clearly is impaired, how all you can feel is the injustice to you. Learning how to use hypnosis gives you an undercurrent of relaxation in all situations. You can still feel anger but not to the explosive extent of before because you can recognise the signs and know that when you are calmer and more relaxed, you can think more clearly – being aware of other people’s body language and in fact, you will notice how solution focused you have become. Your ability to be more objective and therefore, rational is very pronounced. This can be evident after the first session, this sense of control over your anger. NLP is used to build the visualisation – how do you look, how do you feel? What does this mean to you? What does it mean to remain the same? Initially it is about managing the anger and you and as you develop your skills, you find yourself developing into a more centred and calmer person. For appointments call 086 1038892. Dublin 2 and Limerick.

If you are unable to attend me in person, please visit my colleagues at Hypnosis Downloads.

Anger Management: Gain Control With Hypnosis

Zita — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 11:59:32 +0000

Anger is a secondary emotion – by that I mean, to feel angry we must have felt threatened (physically, socially, educationally, mentally) first which gave rise to the anger feelings. In my sessions we take a look at why you are so quick to rise to anger so that you understand it is not the anger that is the problem, it is how you are feeling about yourself. An example would be if you feel somehow inadequate at work and yet are doing well, you may be running a fear that somehow you will be found out so that creates a stress. We can reprogramme this fear so it no longer becomes an issue for you. Perhaps you turn your anger inward, always pleasant on the outside but seething on the inside, you may make yourself more prone to depressive tendencies and your self esteem is lowered. But the good news is that once you figure out what your trigger is and by taking responsibility for your own control of your feelings and with hypnosis amazing things happen. You begin to think more clearly – why? Because your mind is not running the old programme of being “on guard” all the time. Hypnosis is a link to your subconscious mind where all your reactions (and how you learned how to respond) are stored and we can access this programme and make appropriate adjustments that are in your favour. The only thing you can change is your response to various triggers so that in the long run you are happier in yourself and by a domino effect, a pleasure to be around. For more information on controlling anger, call me on 086 1038892 or email zita@zitastanley.com. Dublin 2 and Limerick.

Managing & Controlling Anger: Dublin

Zita — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 11:40:28 +0000

If you want a reliable way to manage and control your anger with a goal of not being bothered by minor things use hypnosis and NLP. In time, anger is no longer an issue for you. In just your first session, I am helping you to understand how you can control what is going on inside you. We look at the various triggers for your anger and objectively seek ways to have these less bothersome for you, a re-frame in other words. As you know, when you start to think angry thoughts, your body goes into a spasm almost, it needs to find a way to release this pent up anger. With hypnosis, it is a relaxation and a relaxation that involves both your mind and body. When you move from an awake state (Beta) to a light trance, daydream (Alpha), this is the state that allows you to make major changes as long as you are focused on what you want to achieve. In the Alpha state, we can use NLP (neuro linguistic programming) to re-adjust and reprogramme your response so that you can get a glimpse into the future of how much better life can be for you. A deeper state known as Theta is when you go into a light sleep and in this state, I am talking and giving the suggestions that you want so that they have a firm root in your subconscious mind. You also receive a CD to play in between sessions (and this is a session within itself). Overall a wonderful feeling of well being is achieved and as your confidence and faith in yourself build, you see dramatic changes in your life. You will find that when you reflect on your week post session, that there may have been incidences where you would previously have been very annoyed and angry and now, they just don’t bother you. Wouldn’t that be a great accomplishment in one week between two sessions with me? If you want to take back control of your emotions, then call me on 086 1038892. Office: Upper Baggot Street, Dublin 2.

Anger Management in Dublin

Zita — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 14:11:57 +0000

Hypnosis is a concentrated relaxation that helps you to (a) regain control of your anger and (b) develop new ways of interacting and learning to assert yourself. With anger management you are learning to control the fire inside you. You know only too well how your anger, whether physically expressed or just in your demeanour, affects your family and affects your work life. If you find that you dread going home because of what you anticipate to be chaos and more noise to annoy and irritate you, then let hypnosis help you. You can learn why you are the way you are and accept that you can change. Anger is a valid emotion but the way it is expressed can be changed – as long as you want to change. With anger management, it is more than just managing your anger, it is a self development exercise and you will be amazed at the results. Part of the process of 1 to 1 anger management is that you accept responsibility for your own emotions. No-one made you do anything, you choose the response method. Taking responsibility and letting go of guilt feelings is important. The only thing you can control is the way you react and you can with hypnosis and/or hypnotherapy make the choice to be more controlled and in a sense, your whole world will brighten, family life improves and your productivity at work improves. For appointments in Dublin call 086 1038892.

Anger & Hypnosis

Zita — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 13:18:35 +0000

What would it mean to you to feel like a new person, to feel in control, to feel at one with yourself? How long would it take to for feeling to occur – weeks, months, years? At the end of just your first session, you can feel all things you want to feel – in control, positive and most importantly, that you have the abilit to change. You have just learned bad reactive responses. Subsequent visits (and the number depends on the client’s development) are required just to ensure this change is lasting and that you finally feel at one with yourself. All my clients tell me that they know exactly where the rage lives inside them (not necessarily the purpose of the rage) but with my help they have learned in a very short space of time the benefits of feeling secure in themselves and the domino effect this has on their lives and their loved one; at work; socially. Hypnosis is not about never getting angry again, we are all thinking and feeling human beings and you are entitled to feel angry – it is how you express the anger is what is important, doing so assertively and confidently. It is about taking control of your anger – taking responsibility for your anger and the consequences. So if you are ready to take control of your anger now, call me on 086 1038892 to book an appointment. Offices – Dublin and Laois.

If you are unable to attend me in person, please visit my colleagues at Hypnosis Downloads.