Being angry is the extreme emotion of anxiety.
Anger is a secondary emotion – by that I mean, to feel angry we must have felt threatened (physically, socially, educationally, mentally) first which gave rise to the anger feelings.
Why you are so easy for you to become angry? You might notice that it is not the anger that is the problem, it is how you are feeling about yourself.
An example would be if you feel somehow inadequate at work and yet are doing well, you may be running a fear that somehow you will be “found out”, that you do not really belong so this creates a stress. This cycle creates unease and unbalance. Your mind becomes on high alert and you focus on every comment, every look as somehow a dig at your perceived lack.
How do you express being angry?
Perhaps you turn your anger inward, always pleasant on the outside but seething on the inside, you may make yourself more prone to depressive tendencies. Your self esteem takes a battering. You become a people pleaser and a little too eager to please to compensate for your internal state.
Ask yourself the following questions about your anger:
- what went through your mind when you first noticed your anger?
- why does the situation upset you?
- what is the worst thing that might happen?
- why does it matter to you?
What you will notice is that you somehow felt threatened. Your internal programme rose to defend your stance. You have the fight instinct when the stress response is released. You rise up to your full height. It’s a physiological response to defend. Our ancestors fathers needed this to survive, to protect their families. Even if someone just says something, your mind is reacting like it’s a physical threat to your life. Our brains have no update unless you do it.
How to control my anger?
- what are the facts? Is the person talking in general? Is what they are saying true?
- how would an observer view the situation? (This helps to step out of the emotional driver.)
- what is the worse thing that could happen?
- what is the best thing that could happen?
- are you “mind-reading”?
- how can you help this emotional fear that is running inside you?
Will I ever get over being angry?
Yes. It doesn’t mean you’ll never feel angry again. You will instead notice the injustice or upset that is triggered within you.
What if I told you that you would:
- never feel the full force of your anger again
- calm and able to deal with the people who previously caused you to be angry
- reduce the aches and pains in your body
- be able to the best the best father/husband etc
- never see fear on your children’s faces again
Well, I can help you achieve these things in the minimum amount of sessions. You don’t need 12 weeks, 12 months or 12 years of treatment. You need 2 to 3 sessions. With me.
My clients require only 2 to 3 sessions to stop being angry at themselves, at the world around them.
I help you to deep inside you, to help you under that your anger is part of your but does not need to define you. But the good news is that once you figure out what your trigger is and by taking responsibility for your own control of your anger feelings amazing things happen as you:
- think more clearly.
- become easier to work with/live with.
- feel more at ease within yourself.
- accept yourself.
Why? Because your mind is not running the old programme of being “on guard” all the time, seeing a threat everywhere. The tool of hypnosis is a key to your subconscious mind where all your reactions (and how you learned how to react, not respond) are stored and we can access this programme and make appropriate adjustments that are in your favour. The only thing you can change is your response to various triggers so that in the long run you are happier in yourself and by a domino effect, a pleasure to be around.
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