Zita Stanley

Please use today to think about those you know how have lost a baby during pregnancy or infancy.  If you suffered a loss, know that you are not alone.  My first and second pregnancies ended in miscarriage and you know, no-one knows what to say or do - even the hospital staff.  For my first miscarriage, I felt dismissed.  For my follow-up hospital appointment, I had to sit in a large waiting room with women in different stages of pregnancy - again, no thought about how my feelings.  My whole world fell apart - my dreams gone.  My second pregnancy was still a shock and in another hospital, the staff were more sympathetic.  What had I done to deserve this?  The answer is nothing.  No-one deserves to lose a baby in pregnancy or at any stage.  What upset me the most at those times was that here in Ireland, the Catholic Church says pregnancy begins at conception but where is the sympathy and support when you miscarry - then it was a “nothing”.  Well intentioned comments do not help - because they are used to “make you see sense” and will be logical!  Miscarriage and infant death isn’t logical. 

Hypnosis was my relief valve.  I could articulate my feelings and let them out - the good, bad and ugly.  It was my salvation and that is why I continued on a journey to help other women to find a safe haven to say what is really on their minds without being judged.

Take some time today to recall your “angel” who was and is part of you.  I wish you peace.

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